RoxStar Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 Why do people always want what they cant have? For example: wanting the ex that has moved on or being married and in love with another person that is also married. Do you think that things that are off limits become more enticing because they are off limits?? Link to post Share on other sites
PDPullmn612 Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 There isn't really a great explanation that i can think of. It is just one of the weird things in life that don't seem right. But the truth is things that are off limits are more appealing to a person. Like why do you think some kids like to smoke weed or what not. Some of it is the thrill of doing something that you aren't supposed to. Thats not the best analogy in the world, but its similar. If something is off limits its more appealing. I don't know why, but im sure it has to do with how the mind works and thinks. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 Originally posted by RoxStar Do you think that things that are off limits become more enticing because they are off limits?? human nature ROXIE...did u go to business school??? law of supply and demand...when supply goes down the demand goes up and vice versa. this is universal in every area of life. - ex gets married, supply of ex is zero, demand goes up - supply of beautiful people is low, demand for them goes up - supply of particular popular hollywood actor is = 1, so their salary goes up - supply of cockroaches is high, demand for cockroaches goes down Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted May 25, 2005 Share Posted May 25, 2005 I know that it seems when I have a G/F then all kinds of women want to be with me but when I don't it's as dry as the desert. Why? I don't know. I think when you have someone you seem more self assured and people notice that. I know guys tell me that when they got married all kinds of women were hitting on them when they weren't before. You are seen as a wanted person and people are attracted to you. Go figure. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear I know that it seems when I have a G/F then all kinds of women want to be with me but when I don't it's as dry as the desert. Why? well M.B., you must also take into acct the female competitive factors when it comes to men. you are taken so you are more valuable and some women want to steal you away for themselves. there is a challenge cause it is not easy to get u. about a yr ago i was at the bar with my g/f (same chick i just hooked back up with) and this other cute broad was flirting with me all nite. Linda was getting PISSED and when she huffed off to the bathroom this chick asked me "what would it take 4 me to steal u away from her." I kid not. This has NEVER happend when i was by myself. Link to post Share on other sites
prissymissy Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 Hey Chic, EVERYBODY wants what they can't have. If they can have it; it is not as much fun. I know it sounds bad but it is true. Take Care, M Link to post Share on other sites
Three of Swords Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 This thread reminded me of my favourite NIN song! And it is soo true about me - I could call it my theme song. At the moment I STILL want that someone I cannot have. (working on trying to get over it .... two months now) During self-analysis I realized that the reason why I simply cannot forget him IS likely the that he doesn't want me. It is a rejection thing ... "so what the f^ck is wrong here - I am fabulous so why don't you want me. God I just want him so bad ....." Yeah - pathetic! It's the unattainable goal! Link to post Share on other sites
sarah12 Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 alpha, your analogy using the law of supply and demand from economics can only be applied to individuals who hold some value to you. If you didn't care about ex or still liked him/her, then you wouldn't care if they got married. Therefore, supply of ex = 0, demand for ex = 0. The point is, "you always want what you can't have" only applies to the exes that you want back, not all of them, so you can't say that it applies to every area in life. But you could use the analogy of an inferior good, for example, if you dumped an ex because they weren't up to the standard that you wanted, and you saw them later on and it seems they've worked on themselves for the better, then you would tend to want them more seeing as their 'value' went up. It's another law of economics that looks at 'price' or value changes of a good. So this applies to alpha's analogy of "you are taken so that must mean someone wants you when i didn't, your value must have gone up." Anyways, I'm with whoever said that it's the rejection factor that makes you want that person back. I've been lucky enough to be successful in every other area of my life, that taking a rejection is pretty hard to swallow and so I tend to overanalyze all the reasons why I may have 'failed.' Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 Originally posted by sarah12 alpha, your analogy using the law of supply and demand from economics can only be applied to individuals who hold some value to you. of course, you are right SARAH12 but this is assumed already. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 I think when you have someone you seem more self assured and people notice that. People are drawn to happy, positive people. If you're in a relationship, chances are you're happier and more positive and therefore people will be attracted to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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