BeautifulOne Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) Why is it so hard to let go!?? Especially of someone who led you to believe they were single, they loved you, they've never met anyone like you as if we were soul mates, etc. all lies and in essence this was a "fake" person who was after his own gain. To manipulate and deceive for 6 months until i caught on to the lies. The he tries to put more lies on top of lies never admitting to what i confronted him about which was an engagement to another woman and never being single as he led me to believe. Then he just stops all communication, changes his number (lied saying he lost his phone) but the number is still disconnected after 2 months..... I had no closure and to me this hurts even more. But maybe whatever closure he would try to give would be another lie... I should feel that a con like this did me a favor by disappearing and knowing what i know now in that he always seems to have another woman before he's all the way out of a relationship. A cheater, liar, etc. But yet i still struggle with this. I feel so broken almost to a panic sometimes. Why why why!?? I keep obsessing over this and logically i know i'm better off without him. Just bothers me that i never got the truth. Maybe i feel stuck because i thought more of him than he is and feeling jealous of his fiancé... The fiance he's been cheating on. Does the pain ever end!? Edited November 13, 2015 by BeautifulOne Link to post Share on other sites
howwie324 Posted November 13, 2015 Share Posted November 13, 2015 I know you're hurting, but you are better off without him in your life. Sweetie, all around you are plenty of decent men who would love to have someone special in their lives and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. They may not be as handsome or as charming as this guy was, but trust me, you don't need him in your life. He used you, plain and simple. He's a user. You're not broken, you were used and manipulated. I can guarantee you that there are men who know you who would love nothing more than the chance to help make you better. Do yourself and them a favor and let them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BeautifulOne Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) I know you're hurting, but you are better off without him in your life. Sweetie, all around you are plenty of decent men who would love to have someone special in their lives and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. They may not be as handsome or as charming as this guy was, but trust me, you don't need him in your life. He used you, plain and simple. He's a user. You're not broken, you were used and manipulated. I can guarantee you that there are men who know you who would love nothing more than the chance to help make you better. Do yourself and them a favor and let them. You're right! Thank you for the kind words. I've been asking myself why everyday!! Why did he do this? Why didn't he want me? Truth is I shouldn't want him to want me. I was having this discussion with someone and they responded saying the better question is why would yiu want to lower your standards to want someone like this to want you!? This made a light bulb go off in my head. They were right! I think i'm stuck on who i thought he was which is an honest loving person... Something he doesn't seem to be. Edited November 13, 2015 by BeautifulOne Link to post Share on other sites
Claire Laraine Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 Why is it so hard to let go!?? Especially of someone who led you to believe they were single, they loved you, they've never met anyone like you as if we were soul mates, etc. all lies and in essence this was a "fake" person who was after his own gain. To manipulate and deceive for 6 months until i caught on to the lies. The he tries to put more lies on top of lies never admitting to what i confronted him about which was an engagement to another woman and never being single as he led me to believe. Then he just stops all communication, changes his number (lied saying he lost his phone) but the number is still disconnected after 2 months..... I had no closure and to me this hurts even more. But maybe whatever closure he would try to give would be another lie... I should feel that a con like this did me a favor by disappearing and knowing what i know now in that he always seems to have another woman before he's all the way out of a relationship. A cheater, liar, etc. But yet i still struggle with this. I feel so broken almost to a panic sometimes. Why why why!?? I keep obsessing over this and logically i know i'm better off without him. Just bothers me that i never got the truth. Maybe i feel stuck because i thought more of him than he is and feeling jealous of his fiancé... The fiance he's been cheating on. Does the pain ever end!? Sometimes we never get the truth and we have to live with that. There are ways to come to terms with that, to let go. And yes the pain does end. The best way to get closure is not get it from the other person but to find it from within. Especially as this person has deceived you from the start. You say logically you know you are better off without him, but not all of you is convinced yet. Self-doubt so quickly sneaks its way in when we are fragile. I know it is a confusing time for you. I have developed a short e-course designed to help single gals gain clarity after a break-up, if your interested have a look here: Clarity in the Chaos ? BELIEVER OF BRAVE Link to post Share on other sites
Author BeautifulOne Posted November 17, 2015 Author Share Posted November 17, 2015 Sometimes we never get the truth and we have to live with that. There are ways to come to terms with that, to let go. And yes the pain does end. The best way to get closure is not get it from the other person but to find it from within. Especially as this person has deceived you from the start. You say logically you know you are better off without him, but not all of you is convinced yet. Self-doubt so quickly sneaks its way in when we are fragile. I know it is a confusing time for you. I have developed a short e-course designed to help single gals gain clarity after a break-up, if your interested have a look here: Clarity in the Chaos ? BELIEVER OF BRAVE Thanks! Just can't seem to find the light at the end of the tunnel. This is a horrible feeling and i bet he's just bouncing off the walls. Link to post Share on other sites
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