Should I invite this guy I really like to come visit me or look locally?

[Lovezen_30]

I was visiting a friend who lives about 8 hours away (and about 2 1/2 hours flying with a VERY expensive airline) when we bumped into her friend in a bar. Well - I was attracted to him immediately. I can't pinpoint it but I just felt like he had this warmth about him and felt the need to be next to him. I made a move (rarely do this), but we were in a really loud and crazy bar and couldn't really talk. However, he left an impression on me. My friend told him so and he sent me a message the next day.

 

We've talked back and forth since then. He's very artistic and interesting. He seems like a genuinely kind person and I can't stop thinking about him! When I realised I was becoming attached but that it couldn't work due to distance I gently told him I'd loved talking to him and he should look me up if he's ever in town. He said that he felt the same way and that he would, because he'd like to spend more time in person, and asked me to do the same.

 

And now I miss him! The thing is, he doesn't actually know anyone else that lives in my town. So if I really wanted him to come here, I'd probably have to offer to let him stay? Evidently seems like a crazy thing to do and might raise some other questions . Alternatively, I can chalk this down to fun experience and look for someone else...

[AspenBaldwin]

Tell him to come. But hey do u have a job that you can do anywhere?

[d0nnivain]

You don't have to let him stay with you. You can go back there & get a hotel. Then if you decide this is something you both want, the next visit can be to your place when you do let him stay or based on your example he can offer to get a hotel.

[Lovezen_30]

Tell him to come. But hey do u have a job that you can do anywhere?

 

I actually do (90% of the time) with potential to increase to 100% possible in the future.

 

We'll still in contact...who knows what will happen in the future

[HowboutthemCowboys]

Just be careful, dont jump in head first and get all gushy over him. Not all guys, but many of them will show false interest in a woman over a long-distance relationship just for sex, because they can use the distance as an excuse to keep the relationship from growing. It can be hard to determine if someone is truly interested in something long-term when you have distance between you.

[Brady_to_Moss]

This is what my ex did..she invited me to come down to stay with her in NC for a few days and i did. You can do it..just be careful of course