JamesFaden Posted November 14, 2015 Share Posted November 14, 2015 i am not sure if i am alone on this. but i hate my family. I want to keep this short and simple. I will say this relatively simple my family have different sort of values than me. when i grew up with them they always bring out the worse in me in terms of anger and fighting. i have not spoke to them for well over 5 years not a single phone call or anything. i live quite a depressing life. I dont have close connections with other people..... can anyone relate? Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted November 14, 2015 Share Posted November 14, 2015 No can't relate... I couldn't do without my family and friends! Was there an incident that caused you to withdraw? Do you want to reach out now and make new connections? Link to post Share on other sites
Author JamesFaden Posted November 15, 2015 Author Share Posted November 15, 2015 I wouldn't call it an incidence. Its their nature. Its who they are and how they portray themselves. I dont want to go into such great detail about why i never talk to them. lets just say they have different values than me. That is what separates us apart. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted November 21, 2015 Share Posted November 21, 2015 IN an ideal world, we would all have the perfect family who loves us no matter what. But sadly, I can relate. Mine started with my little brother. When I moved to a different state, he stopped speaking to me. No rhyme or reason. We had a perfectly nice phone call one night, and then I never heard from him again. A bit over 2 months ago, my grandmother died. I was unable to fly out for the funeral, and my mother claimed she understood. But ever since, things have been different. We fought over various things for a month or so after that, and now we have been 5 weeks no contact, with no sign of it letting up. So by extension, none of the rest of my family speak to me. Sometimes it's best to remove toxic people from your life, and that goes for family too. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted November 21, 2015 Share Posted November 21, 2015 In my late 20s, I hated my family. I didn't talk to them for six years. I missed my Dad's 60th birthday party because the situation. I was made homeless by an earthquake and would rather live in my car for five months than go back to my family. By my mid-30s, I regretted those lost years and my stubbornness. Now, in my 50s with my parents long-deceased, I *really* regret those lost years with them.. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted November 21, 2015 Share Posted November 21, 2015 At this stage of your life you are doing what is best for your life choice. Will you be okay with that? Possibly. As Carrie Mentioned, in the grand scope of things and thru the loss, we re-evaluate some of our decisions and behaviors as the child and the adult we were to them. I can only relate only because I had three sets of parents. One being a foster family that was genuinely evil . When I left there it was and still is with no regrets or any sentimental fondness. So if that is where your stance is coming from, then have peace for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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