Author impatiently_patient Posted November 25, 2015 Author Share Posted November 25, 2015 You're probably better off dating yourself. It's the only person you like. Based on what? Me not liking you t___s? I like most of the people I encounter offline. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 Blimey what a lot of complaining..... Get out to your local drinking establishment with a few mates.... `Go on the pull` Approach, `ullo darling` (has been known to work:)) `You look well fit` `fancy a play on the fruit machine` `Hold the cherries` (You`d be surprised) I was! My flippancy aside, you sound like your looking for a `girl` who does not exist. So best `pulling` trousers on and get out there. Good luck. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 that's like 90% of white women. I think it's just human nature, maybe some type of primal instinct. There's even a book about it called the selfish gene. That was really not the main point of that book... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 Nobody wants to give but when one has had no success then maybe its time to give up. Link to post Share on other sites
loveflower Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 No, it was a test... and like her, you read it wrong. Like I said, no loss. The lowest IQs need to be tossed out. Holy...a test? what kind of test? to see if she has low enough self-esteem to be trampled all over? who do you think you are? what kind of woman needs to be with a guy who tests her like that? I don't see any IQ in this kind of test. I only see there is zero EQ in it. I don't know how high is my IQ but enough to know that this is the kind of man I want to run as far away as possible. you device this test or any other similar tests to test yourself out of dating. Congratulation! you win! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 No, it was a test... and like her, you read it wrong. Like I said, no loss. The lowest IQs need to be tossed out. That woman’s reaction didn’t indicate that she had a low IQ. Your conclusions (below) missed other possibilities, such as that she wasn’t interested in negativity. ... Totally missed the point of the track. It's about keeping an optimistic mind in a world that delivers little more than ugly situations. If I've got to explain the concept of a metaphor to a woman who's an artist, I'm out. ... … Anyway, if I was a betting man, Miss Rockabilly hates rap and that was her problem. Who knows, I'm so much more over it than all you posters here in the mystical, magical land of Myopia. ... It’s also possible that she’s encountered enough of that fraction of people who equate the condescending tortured or alienated artist persona with depth, insight or intelligence. I dated a guy like that once. He’d self-published a book and was an aspiring screenwriter and film expert. But there was nothing interesting about his work or about his angry alienation schtick. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 It’s also possible that she’s encountered enough of that fraction of people who equate the condescending tortured or alienated artist persona with depth, insight or intelligence. I dated a guy like that once. He’d self-published a book and was an aspiring screenwriter and film expert. But there was nothing interesting about his work or about his angry alienation schtick. Too true. And IME that "depth" only extends to an interest in their own inner lives-not those of others. Everyone else is comparatively boring and dumb, of course. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 I think you're onto something there blue. Felt this about the OP as well but wasn't able to verbalize...good work. OP it's like you're trying to overcome some insecurity so have to push an "intellectual agenda" with your retorts like the one in your exchange with the OLD girl in your original post. You might do better with honey instead of vinegar...no matter how fancy/gourmet that vinegar is. Btw...I've yet to read of a poster who shoots the messenger more than you..actually no one even comes close. It really is shocking. I could keep going with that, but it's not worth my time to type. He doesn't want to change. It just sounds like he wants acknowledgement. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 I don't consider me as a bad looking man, but still i struggle to even get ONE date. Again i got the most insane anwser from a woman I am starting to feel women on OLD sites are mentally insane or something. And woman complain men are rude. Well... the answer i got in tinder today really was weird. I said "good morning :)" to this woman in Tinder i've been talking now for 2 days. She replies "Good Morning X, you unemployed, living in a 2-room flat at Z-area (certain area of a city). Yikes, this combination... you remind me of my alcoholic brother!" So, living in flats are now wrong. Dare to live in a flat and you shall never find love! Being unemployed. DARE to be unemployed and you shall not deserve love EVER! Living in certain area in a city. YOU SHALL NOT DESERVE TO BE LOVED YOU! MOVE OUT FROM THAT AREA IMMEADITELY! I really. Really think some women are mentally insane. They have to be. No one in their right mind would not send anything like that. She seemed to be this "wealthy" type of person. So she is so much better than me just because she works and makes more money than i do. I've yet to ever meet a woman who will get involved with a man earning less than her. She sounds rather normal to me, not insane at all. There is a condescending tone to your posts. Is it more important to you to be the smartest guy on Loveshack or to explore why you're striking out with women? There are many people on here who have a condescending tone. Several posting in this very topic. You're just pointing out the one you disagree with and can't have a virtual high five with. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 I've known some people to say, that they DO read thoroughly the profiles, but I seriously doubt that is the case because recently I had a bluntly honest women say she simply didn't find me attractive after having looked at my profile. That's all it takes really. All it takes is, "He's bald...next" "Too short...next", "no 6-figure income...next" without even reading anything. It is sometimes simple as that. If they look at your mug and cannot picture themselves kissing you, it's bye-bye. Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 (edited) There are many people on here who have a condescending tone. Several posting in this very topic. You're just pointing out the one you disagree with and can't have a virtual high five with. Well, yes indeed, if someone comes on here and blames his (or HER) lack of success in dating on the ALMOST THE ENTIRE opposite gender, instead of taking ANY sort of responsibility--especially when it is PLAIN AS DAY that the OP has blind spots of his own s/he needs to work on, that just tends to draw a lot of harsh responses. Imagine that. The thing is, just about EVERYONE who viewed this thread and posted on it has about the SAME opinion as Kamille's, even posters who tend to disagree on other stuff on here. What type of responses did you think the OP "should have" gotten? Edited November 27, 2015 by Imajerk17 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherknows Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 I've known some people to say, that they DO read thoroughly the profiles, but I seriously doubt that is the case because recently I had a bluntly honest women say she simply didn't find me attractive after having looked at my profile. That's all it takes really. All it takes is, "He's bald...next" "Too short...next", "no 6-figure income...next" without even reading anything. It is sometimes simple as that. If they look at your mug and cannot picture themselves kissing you, it's bye-bye. ...of course. If you don't want to kiss someone why bother. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 28, 2015 Author Share Posted November 28, 2015 It’s also possible that she’s encountered enough of that fraction of people who equate the condescending tortured or alienated artist persona with depth, insight or intelligence. I dated a guy like that once. He’d self-published a book and was an aspiring screenwriter and film expert. But there was nothing interesting about his work or about his angry alienation schtick. Or it was universal and empathetic in nature, yet flew right over your head(?). Either way, more people think Tyler Perry's vapid hardy har har "let's support stereotypes to cash out" work is somehow more engaging than Bryan Fuller or Dan Harmon's anti-trope canons, who've been notoriously canceled at every turn. You can listen to Drake and think he's got something to say. I'll stick with Mr. Krane. I'm okay this way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 28, 2015 Author Share Posted November 28, 2015 There are many people on here who have a condescending tone. Several posting in this very topic. You're just pointing out the one you disagree with and can't have a virtual high five with. Yup: Post count / like count circle-jerk. I've yet to find a forum that works any other way. Yet, I'm the insecure one. Riiiiiiiight... Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 ...of course. If you don't want to kiss someone why bother. Good deal someone agrees, a lot of people are under the impression that you should do something to tweak your profile and "add better pictures" as if that would work. If you're adding hi-rez or "better" photos of a short guy,...that won' t help them. LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Protec Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 I've known some people to say, that they DO read thoroughly the profiles, but I seriously doubt that is the case because recently I had a bluntly honest women say she simply didn't find me attractive after having looked at my profile. That's all it takes really. All it takes is, "He's bald...next" "Too short...next", "no 6-figure income...next" without even reading anything. It is sometimes simple as that. If they look at your mug and cannot picture themselves kissing you, it's bye-bye. When i go trough female profiles in OLD sites i always imagine if i could wake up next to that looking woman. If the answer is NO, i move on. Maybe i sound shallow, but if my woman is the first thing i see in the morning, she needs to please the eye in some way. But i don't require the woman to look like Milla Jovovich or something. Just someone who pleases my eye 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 When i go trough female profiles in OLD sites i always imagine if i could wake up next to that looking woman. If the answer is NO, i move on. Maybe i sound shallow, but if my woman is the first thing i see in the morning, she needs to please the eye in some way. But i don't require the woman to look like Milla Jovovich or something. Just someone who pleases my eye Right, if they look like someone that you'd find at a back water, hole-in-the-water bar. Chances are they stick around with dudes that look the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherknows Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 Good deal someone agrees, a lot of people are under the impression that you should do something to tweak your profile and "add better pictures" as if that would work. If you're adding hi-rez or "better" photos of a short guy,...that won' t help them. LOL. The best kind of pictures to post are ones that look like you on your best day. Nobody likes surprises. Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 The best kind of pictures to post are ones that look like you on your best day. Nobody likes surprises. I'd argue the best pictures are those that show what you look like on your typical day, because no one likes surprises. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 The best kind of pictures to post are ones that look like you on your best day. Nobody likes surprises. I don't think that has to do with anything that I posted. Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherknows Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 I'd argue the best pictures are those that show what you look like on your typical day, because no one likes surprises. What do you mean? Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 What do you mean? If you only put up your best photos, unless your at your best when you meet they will be disappointed. If you put up an average photo, what you look like on your average day, half the time they will be pleasantly surprised and the other half hopefully not too disappointed. That is not to say or imply you should not put your best foot forward, you just don't want to set them up for disappointment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 28, 2015 Author Share Posted November 28, 2015 I'm glad my stupid drunken rant of a thread could be the hottest discussion on Lovehack. Carry on... Link to post Share on other sites
AspenBaldwin Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 Hey buddy, don't give up so easily, that was just ONE woman, she could have been hit by a car as she was messaging you on her phone. Either way is not the end of the world. Pick another bird and fly away. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author impatiently_patient Posted November 28, 2015 Author Share Posted November 28, 2015 (edited) Hey buddy, don't give up so easily, that was just ONE woman, she could have been hit by a car as she was messaging you on her phone. Either way is not the end of the world. Pick another bird and fly away. Ha ha. I appreciate the motivation, It was the proverbial straw, that's all. I honestly hope she finds what she's looking for... and learns to read while she's at it. The whole thing is just weird. I'd like to be able to put my best, honest self out there as thoroughly and succinctly as possible, and attract the women who jive with that. Pretty much all my dates off online dating, the lady contacted me first... but lately it'd been nothing but women a generation older than myself with little-to-nothing in common... meanwhile, I was sending out hundreds of messages to women who seem to be a fit (or at least have some seeming potential) and none write back... heck, most didn't even click on my profile. It's an awful lot of time and energy expended to be ignored. I've got pretty good self esteem, but it wears on one after a while. I'm still on Tinder if that counts as "not giving up". I'm big-time popular with the pornbot crowd... LOL. No one else, though. Edited November 29, 2015 by impatiently_patient Link to post Share on other sites
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