Winterina Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 (edited) Today............... Why did you cry Haydn? OP, I have seen a few guys in my life cry... over their mother being sick, over us breaking up, over a sad movie and such. To be honest guys, if you feel like crying, just let it out if you must. It just means that you can be open and close enough to the woman you are with. You do not need to keep up any images. A normal woman will feel closer to you for being open, and not less attracted to you. Oh and the sociopath I dated for 2 years cried a lot... but his crying was to manipulate me and he knew it worked so he used it often. But it was the weirdest crying even...like watching a statue with no facial expressions run tears. Peoples' faces usually turn into a grimace, become red, or have any painful expression at all. Voice changes. His facial expression was just the most peaceful the most normal look ever, only that tears were pouring. I now get chills remembering it. Edited November 15, 2015 by Winterina Link to post Share on other sites
WomenWubber Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 (edited) When I was battered to a pulp by 3 thugs and they took my first bike, which I had worked all year long for. I was shocked and teary, then I was angry. Since then I've not cried once, but I've became an angrier person I guess. Edited November 15, 2015 by WomenWubber Link to post Share on other sites
summerdowling87 Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 I have older brothers My brother who's a year older than me who I've only seen cry a few times. Once was when my niece was born and his b**ch of an ex-wife took their new-born away with her out of town. Second was when our deadbeat father refused to help my brother. Third time was when our granny passed away. My eldest brother also cried I mean cried when his a-hole of an ex-wife refused to let him seen his two daughters.-(years ago) Second time when his two bulldogs passed away. Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted November 22, 2015 Share Posted November 22, 2015 Does it turn you off when your fiance cries? Honest question because stupidly I still sometimes am afraid to show tender emotions in front of my wife when I know I shouldn't be. Oh no, not at all!! Gives me a chance to pull him into my bosom and rub his head..... Things often escalate from there.;-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SJS Posted November 22, 2015 Share Posted November 22, 2015 I only remember my father crying once, and he yelled for us kids to get out of the room so we wouldn't see him. He had been talking about his dad. I've been with my husband for 22 years and have seen him cry 3 times, 2 other times were questionable where he said he cried but I didn't see/hear it. For all of those times though, they were "big deals" (like almost losing a child, losing his house and everything he owned before we were married). It didn't make me think any less of him, actually the opposite, because he's human after all. My step father in law cries all the time. I've never seen a guy cry like him. Not that it's bad, but it catches me off guard every time. Link to post Share on other sites
understand50 Posted November 22, 2015 Share Posted November 22, 2015 When my younger bother died of cancer, leaving a wife. Losses are coming faster at my age, so I feel, I will be crying a lot more in the coming years. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 Does it turn you off when your fiance cries? Honest question because stupidly I still sometimes am afraid to show tender emotions in front of my wife when I know I shouldn't be. I had an ex BF that cried a few times in front of me. It never impacted my feelings toward him. In fact it brought us closer at the time. He's my ex for other reasons. I think it depends on the woman though. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SolG Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Does it turn you off when your fiance cries? Honest question because stupidly I still sometimes am afraid to show tender emotions in front of my wife when I know I shouldn't be. I'm glad to hear your ex is an EX and is no longer a part of your life. So at a time of grief and loss, you expressed sadness in a genuine way and opened up to her, and, instead of sharing compassion, she 'lost attraction'? Wow. It is exactly at the time of weakness, when you feel down, you get to realize whose 'love' is genuine, who actually cares about you. Glad to hear you show your vulnerability to your current wife. Oh no, not at all!! Gives me a chance to pull him into my bosom and rub his head..... Things often escalate from there.;-) I had an ex BF that cried a few times in front of me. It never impacted my feelings toward him. In fact it brought us closer at the time. He's my ex for other reasons. I think it depends on the woman though. I see it as a positive sign of healthy intimacy when a partner cries in front of and/or with me. Trust with that level of vulnerability is a gift. It's like... Here I am in my pain and I know you love me enough to help find relief/solace and accept this as much as the strong stoic parts of me. With you I feel safe enough to drop my facade. For men I think this is for some somewhat terrifying when there are so many messages telling them that it's not acceptable to show 'weakness' and to be stoic despite even the most painful of experiences. In the face of that conditioning and risk of condemnation it's actually very brave and shows great strength IMO for a man to be so vulnerable. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Faust Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Not a man, but my husband cried in October, when we had to put our cat to sleep. It was heartbreaking. Link to post Share on other sites
blackcat777 Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 I feel so touched and special when my boyfriend allows himself to show intense emotions in front of me. HE questions his masculinity if he cries, but I remind him that it takes balls to be honest about where you're at in the moment, and, just because he's alive and feeling, it doesn't at all take away from the powerful decisions he makes as a man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Samhain Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 When I was holding and stroking my dog as he was put to sleep. Not full on wailing, but a tear definitely fell. I miss him Link to post Share on other sites
nucking_futs Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 i don't cry.. Link to post Share on other sites
somegu Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 I cried twice this year I can remember. When my girlfriend broke up with me and when I broke my wrist. I don't think there's anything wrong with crying but I prefer to do it alone. Link to post Share on other sites
TexasMan68 Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 After watching this video several times:) I laughed so hard I was crying!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x84GKqcpY4E Link to post Share on other sites
MightyPen Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 When my dog was "put to sleep" earlier this year, I held her in the vet's little private office area until they were ready to take her. I won't lie...I was a hot mess. I cried a lot, and the folks at the vet's office were kind enough to give me the time I needed to compose myself before going back through the lobby to leave. I agree with those who say it's unhealthy to keep it in, bury it down, or convert it all to anger. That being said, I don't cry often, as I generally go into "problem-solving mode" when facing a crisis, but sometimes a human just needs to express sadness. Link to post Share on other sites
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