littlem Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 I have been with my girl friend for about 5 months now, I asked her what happened with her ex. She told me the story so ill cut out the main points, They was together for about 2 years, engaged, she said she wasn't happy for a few months. I knew she was with this guy for a while but not engaged..we got together a short while after her break up, she was adamant that it was over with him, she said she ran out of fight. She is doing everything different to how she was with him, so i'm confused if there is some emotional attachment. If not will there be in the future. I know this is petty but she has removed every picture (that I know of) off her tablet but not her facebook. why take the time to remove them off the tablet and not facebook? this way she still has them stored. im not sure if I should bring this up as like I said it looks petty. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 You may be a rebound but she could also have been emotionally done with that other relationship before she formally ended it. Ask her to take the pictures off FB. If she does, try not to worry. If she doesn't what you do next is entirely up to you. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 I understand wanting to take exes off public sites like Facebook, but I don't ever think it's fair to ask someone not to keep photos of their exes in a private collection on their computer or wherever, in storage. Because they were a big part of their life and integral to who they are in some ways. You can't make that go away and shouldn't ask anyone to pretend it never happened. But yes, I think keeping it on public display when you are at all serious about someone else isn't great -- though I myself have 65 8x10s framed in my hallway with everyone I've ever known on my Hall of Fame, and wouldn't remove them for anyone, though I did hide one once who was just a friend for an ex whose exwife had been stolen by him. As a courtesy. But it's back up now. Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 hmmm well do they still have mutual friends? That would be the reason for keeping the pictures on FB i would imagine? Sometimes people like to try and be politically correct and don't want to look petty by removing all the pictures. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlem Posted November 18, 2015 Author Share Posted November 18, 2015 yer i know i wouldn't ask her to just remove them she may want to look back in 10 years time and it is good to have them. I don't mind them to much she still has the engagement party photos. i wouldn't ask her to take them down as well it was there party, with many friends. But there are still photos of them kissing and many photos where they are at a lake with i think his little sisters....a group photo all smiley and happy. I don't want her to take them down but at the same time do. Link to post Share on other sites
kgcolonel Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 Understand....she's with you now. This relationship will be what you two decide to make of it. Be open with her to talk freely about what went wrong and how she'd like to be treated "in a perfect world". This will show her that you are not the "other guy" and that you are more engaged that he evidently was. Whatever you do, do not appear to be threatened by the pics or by inadvertent contact with mutual friends. In fact, look to be invited to meet the group of friends and always have great things to say about her when with her friends. These are the things that will separate you from her past. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlem Posted November 18, 2015 Author Share Posted November 18, 2015 okay, ill try that haha thanks for the advice. if i return back to this post in like a week or so then i think its safe to say it didn't go well haha Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlem Posted November 25, 2015 Author Share Posted November 25, 2015 It did not go well haha...just made her angry about it calling me jealous.......FML Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 It did not go well haha...just made her angry about it calling me jealous.......FML Sounds like you were not tactful? You should start by asking her what the pictures mean to her, did you do that? I bet no. Link to post Share on other sites
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