Aquaman83 Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 (edited) On the way home from my date last night with a new girl... and I sent a drunk text to that girl from last week (she went radio silent after several days of text - then poof gone) I haven't heard anything from her since Friday and reach out Monday about getting together and no response. Yesterday afternoon, I asked her about the train and if she was caught up in the mess on the way to work... no response. I got home around 10pm and was drunk; and I sent a text that I wanted to but knew I shouldn't but I felt like I needed to do this to move on. My text: "Saying hey you know you could have been an "Adult" about it and told me thursday night or friday; instead of lying about it and blowing me off.. I didn't want to make things awkward since we live in a small town and all.... ill see you around.." I wake up this morning and received a response at 6am (little shocked after all this, but I felt like any woman would do this to justify they are not being a jerk) Her response: "I'm not trying to be a jerk. I've had a lot going on over the past week and you just happened to fall into it. Sorry I didn't respond and the reason I am is bc I feel like I should. I've been overly stressed out and when that happens I go off the grid... Completely. sorry for making you feel ****ty it wasn't my intention. See you. " Edited November 18, 2015 by Aquaman83 added detail Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 "Saying hey you know you could have been an "Adult" about it and told me thursday night or friday; instead of lying about it and blowing me off.. I didn't want to make things awkward since we live in a small town and all.... ill see you around.." Umm, I have never understood the reasoning behind a person being labeled an a$$ just because they decided (for whatever reason) they don't want to talk to you at the time. And you sent the text because you not only DID want to make things awkward but you wanted to get one last shot in. You went on a date with a girl, obviously you were not in a serious committed relationship or you would not be dating another girl a week later. So why did you have to send a passive aggressive text to have closure? What needed closure? You had already started to date others. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aquaman83 Posted November 18, 2015 Author Share Posted November 18, 2015 I understand where you are coming from, and what you are saying. I never called her an ass or anything like that; I wanted to get my frustrations off my chest. We noticed each other for several months here and there, and when we used to take the same train (my schedule change) she noticed me and vice versa. Our conversation went well over the course of two days once we exchange numbers. Then Friday came around and she was supposed to meet in the morning and grab coffee before work and hang out after work for a proper date. She didn't show up and i asked her later in the day if we are still on and then waited until 4pm (its a friday) and i asked hey are we on b/c I want to make plans (its a friday night) - didn't want to sit home doing nothing because she flaked. She got back to me and told me that she is with her mom all day and sorry for not getting back - and she will be staying out by her mom for the rest of the day. I said have a good time with your mom and enjoy your weekend. keep in touch. i reached out monday night 8:40 (she goes to bed 9-11pm) she wakes up really early. Saying hope you had a great weekend. Lets grab that drink on wed or thursday. - No response Then yesterday around 2pm - i said something about crazy day with the train ; did you get stuck? - no response. i know i made it awkward with my text; and no we are not serious. But, she caught my eye... and we have a lot of things in common. I would be interested in perusing it further. But this girl completely POOFed. Now a days with online dating, its status quo for women to just stop talking. Especially here in the north east. I get it, a lot of guys will say nasty things... beg for them back... and etc. My reasoning for sending it was more or less.. like im upset with you, and you could have just told me how you felt (because I didn't think it was an assumption anymore; clearly she didn't want to talk to me) and with me not making it weird... like saying hey... we run into each other and i don't want this be weird.. both in our 30s... Link to post Share on other sites
craw Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 At least she responded to you, even though it's a pretty lame excuse. I hate saying this, but time to move on. She could always contact you, but what's the point? You've continually made an effort towards her. Mind you, I'm no expert at dating. Could she playing hard to get? No clue. To me, it seems that she isn't worth your time. I'm going to post a quote when I find it. Link to post Share on other sites
craw Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option. Maya Angelou This has by far been the hardest thing for me to process recently as I'm totally in love with someone who views me like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aquaman83 Posted November 18, 2015 Author Share Posted November 18, 2015 I get the stress and going all introverted. 100% i do that. but if i just started to date someone, i let them know i am busy... so they don't think i don't want to talk to them etc... - but then again they will.. Link to post Share on other sites
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