Soul mates &Partner?

[Tess]

I know we've been down this road,but refresh my memorry.

 

I don't think that I have met my soul mate.Is it possible for your soul mate to NOT be your life partner?? Most of people will claim that their partner is their soul mate.Is till struggle with that acceptance.But then I just may not get it.

 

Any ideas??

[Tony T]

YOU ASK: ".Is it possible for your soul mate to NOT be your life partner??"

 

I suppose it is. This soul mate concept is an invention of man and is not necessarily based in reality. There is no known authority that has ever declared that soulmates really exist. There is also no authority or website you can go to where you can absolutely confirm that any given person is your soulmate. Just a chance you gotta take.

 

More realistically, a soulmate for you could be any one of a number of people with whom you could have lots in common, be attracted to, get along with, and connect at a very deep spiritual and intellectual level. You can do that with lots of people who are not your life partner.

 

Millions of people have married the person they thought was their soulmate only to leave them later on when they found they were sadly mistaken.

 

So a soulmate could be a very close, dear friend. Sex doesn't have to be involved.

 

A soulmate is what you want to make it and who you want to make it. But the concept of one great soulmate is very wonderful and romantic. Believe what you will. Don't want to steal away anyone's dreams.

[Tess]

You said," To be able to connect on such a level",right?

 

is a person your soul mate from the very beginning you meet or can they evolve into that status??

 

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YOU ASK: ".Is it possible for your soul mate to NOT be your life partner??" I suppose it is. This soul mate concept is an invention of man and is not necessarily based in reality. There is no known authority that has ever declared that soulmates really exist. There is also no authority or website you can go to where you can absolutely confirm that any given person is your soulmate. Just a chance you gotta take. More realistically, a soulmate for you could be any one of a number of people with whom you could have lots in common, be attracted to, get along with, and connect at a very deep spiritual and intellectual level. You can do that with lots of people who are not your life partner. Millions of people have married the person they thought was their soulmate only to leave them later on when they found they were sadly mistaken. So a soulmate could be a very close, dear friend. Sex doesn't have to be involved. A soulmate is what you want to make it and who you want to make it. But the concept of one great soulmate is very wonderful and romantic. Believe what you will. Don't want to steal away anyone's dreams.

[Tess]

Do you really believe that there is one for everybody? What is it that other people are finding to identify that another is their "soulmate"?Ihave found many people with admirable qualities,yet not one that has every single one to qualify as what I would call soul mate status..I wonder if this isn't just a phrase that people " in love" use to qualify their in love status. Yeah,i'm cynical..i just have a hard time believing it.

 

 

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You said," To be able to connect on such a level",right? is a person your soul mate from the very beginning you meet or can they evolve into that status?? --------------------------------------------------------------

 

[sparkle]

Most of the time, you don't know right away that this is your soulmate. A lot of the time, like you said, they 'evolve to that status'.

 

I personally believe that you can have as many soulmates in your lifetime as you want. It all depends on what you consider one to be.

 

You asked, "Do you really believe that there is one for everybody?"

 

Not only do I believe that there is one for everybody, but that there can be many for a person. In a world of over 6 billion people, it is very possible that you will find many special people.

 

You wrote, "I have found many people with admirable qualities, yet not one that has every single one to qualify as what I would call soul mate status."

 

You're being really picky about this. If you're waiting around for the PERFECT guy, you will be waiting all your life. There are NO perfect people in this world. You aren't perfect. You may have lots of admirable qualities, but you also have many flaws.

 

Your soul mate is not going to be a person who will have EVERY single trait that you are looking for. He will not be "perfect".

 

Instead, your soulmate will be someone who has just enough admirable qualities, but also has many flaws that you are willing to overlook. If you love someone unconditionally (as you would love your "soulmate"), you don't expect them to be totally perfect. You realize that they have things that are wrong with them, but YOU ACCEPT THEM for who they are.

 

You're looking around for someone with EVERY single quality you desire, and you think when you find that person, he will be your soulmate. But think about yourself. You may think this person is "the one" for you, but if he thinks just like you do, he'll see your flaws and think that you're not his soulmate. So, since you're not perfect yourself, you can't go around searching for the "perfect" person.

 

It's not about finding the RIGHT guy. It's about being in a mature relationship with someone you love unconditionally, it's about being the kind of person that you're looking for.

[Tony T]

1. "is a person your soul mate from the very

 

beginning you meet or can they evolve into that

 

status??"

 

A person is your soulmate whenever you make the decision that they are. There are a lot of people who can be your soulmate, first if you meet them, and then when you annoint them. And, I'm really sorry to report, soulmateship is not necessarily a permanent position.

 

2. "Do you really believe that there is one for everybody?"

 

Absolutely. And I do mean everybody. But a lot of people have to learn a lot of lessons before they meet that special person. Sad to say, some never do.

 

3. "What is it that other people are finding to identify that another is their "soulmate"?"

 

Soulmates don't have serial numbers, etc. I thought I pretty well explained this in my original post. You are having a lot of problems with the concept and that's OK. You might want to read my original post over again.

 

A soulmate is NOT someone you necessarily identify. It's more someone you decide on, it's a feeling you have more than another's status.

 

If you are thinking this soulmate thing is some sort of magical concept, that a soulmate is somewhat akin to a mystical character, you are very wrong. A soulmate is just one of the many human beings you can feel very good about.

 

4. "Ihave found many people with admirable qualities,yet not one that has every single one to qualify as what I would call soul mate status..I wonder if this isn't just a phrase that people " in love" use to qualify their in love status."

 

If you think a soulmate is a perfect person, you are destined for a very lonely life. People are just not perfect. Do you think you are? If you do, you have excellent self esteem..but you are also very WRONG. Now, there may be some people who see you as perfect, but many others who don't.

 

You need to look for a nice human being with imperfections you can tolerate or live with who you can love and grow with. A relationship with a perfect person could be the most boring thing on the earth...you have my word on that.