WestEndGirl Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 Don't you just love the way they turn their faces around and play the big traditional family man? Pathetic creatures. Poppy. MM's behavior took me for a loop because that was NOT how it went down in my former M, when my xH was involved with his OW. I think "significant other" is the more appropriate term, because he made it quite clear that his relationship with her was his primary relationship, and not his marriage to me. They grew closer over the holidays, exchanged gifts, spent a lot of time together--they even had "rules" with respect to me, which was that he didn't give me any gifts, although he could attend family functions. He was completely on board with it. (Their relationship didn't work out, but that was independent of our M.) As much as it stung at the time, at least my xH was living authentically, the way he wanted to live. I think I projected my xH's behavior onto MM, expecting us to grow closer with the holidays growing near, because that's the way I had experienced it. Most As have common features, and although it's fair to say that most MM will disappear off the face of the planet near the holidays, not all MM are the same. There are always outliers. Link to post Share on other sites
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