Am I the bitchy one?

[4316edison]

My husband says that every time we talk it turns into me bitching. He thinks questions that I ask is considered bitching. He says he sometimes feels that he needs space. He has a busy job and when he come home he is nice then switches to evil. I deal with his mood swings every day because he says he's tired. We just now started to put both kids to bed early but he either plays games on the cell phone or spends hours talking on the phone to his mom. I asked why he does that and his reply is I always argue.

 

He is 5 years younger than me. Could this be a maturity issue. His mother spoiled him his whole life. He is the kind of person that, if you offered him a bite of your favorite dish he would eat the whole thing without feeling bad. When we were dating I even asked him to not ejaculate in me while having sex and he totally disregarded my feelings and did it anyway. He said it just felt good to him. I was not on BC at the time. He has no impulse control. He has already cheated on me etc.

 

Can him and I work this out. How can I come across as not the bitchy one and have him respect me. At 23 can he be taught this.

 

thank you.

[Devildog]

Wow, you found the male version of my XW!

 

From my experience, don't expect him to change very easily. Sorry I don't have any better advice for you, but if I had the answer, it might not be my XW.

[moimeme]

When we were dating I even asked him to not ejaculate in me while having sex and he totally disregarded my feelings and did it anyway. He said it just felt good to him. I was not on BC at the time. He has no impulse control. He has already cheated on me etc.

 

Why in God's name did you marry this jerk? Did you think marriage would magically transform him into a good man?

 

You bought the goods broken. He's not going to get any better - there was never any hope he would. You can try counselling but I doubt he'd go.

 

I'm sorry. I'm just flabbergasted that someone would see all these negatives and marry him anyway. WTH were you thinking?

[onlyhuman]

Wow,

Ditto what Moimeme said.

To answer your question ,NO.

Maybe a better question is:

Is my husband a self centered,lying, cheating, moody suck ass mommas's boy?YES.

[SueBee3490]

He spends hours talking to him mom on the phone?

 

He really needs to spend his home time with you and your kids. Maybe talk to his mom to catch up on what's happening - but for hours? Sorry that doesn't sound right.

 

If he was not going to respect your wishes about ejaculating inside you - why not make him wear a condom? I know he'll probably say that doesn't feel good - but you really need to look out for yourself. He only seems to be concerned with himself.

 

You also say he cheated so I assume he didn't used protection then either. You really need to be concerned about what STD's he could be bringing home to you.

 

I would say try counseling if you can get him to go but if not - go for yourself. You deserve better.

 

SueBee

[scarlyjones]

wow.........................it just felt good to him?? What a self-centered, jerk. Holy crap. Yeah,....why DID you marry this wonderful man? Did he point his ***at you and threaten to ejaculate? Kind of a shotgun wedding?

[RecordProducer]

So you're married to an immature, selfish momma's boy and cheater that argues with you and ignores you whenever he's around...

Any good news about your marriage? Any kids involved with this... kid?

[4316edison]

Thank you foe responding to me. I like the way you guys think. I feel better, maybe a little stronger.