How do you balance LIFE with your love life?

[HansonGirl]

whenever I get involved with someone, it's like i get so wrapped up and focused on the relationship that I feel like I really sacrifice other areas of my life. When i was in high school and most of college, i wasn't interested in guys. I did AMAZINGLY in school. I was so focused. as soon as i got invovled with the first boy during college, my grades suffered. And my work suffers when i'm involved with someone, because I get so into it. It's NOT HEALTHY. I met an amazing woman during my graduate school - she did well in school, did extracurricular activites, stayed in shape, and was planning her wedding. she had it together. did well in school and had a great relationship. HOW DOES SHE DO IT? that's what i'd like but i know in my experience my schooling suffers if i'm with someone. perhaps that's the sign it's a bad relationship? where the guy doesn't help buiild me up? where i'm forgetting what's important? and letting myself get carried away and too focused on the relationship?

 

I'd really like to figure out the healthy balance. i think this may be a matter of not loving myself enough. because i practically let that fall by the wayside - all that matters to me. it's not good.

[Noproblem]

Don't you ever do that..

 

Make parts for everyone in your life, don't let your life revolves about one person only no matter how important he/she is.

Or else your life will be shattered once they are gone!

 

Time for friends

Time for studying/work

Time for fitness.

Time for family

Time for fun

and of course time for him/her!

 

You can do it. Just write everything in paper and really consider as mini calendar until you get used to it.

 

Of course with studying/work taking the most of time, because you want to be successful and in love at the end of the day.

because if you fail in school, you will blame them, and you might end the relationship.

 

I think how that woman did it, is because she is very organized ..

[loveweary11]

whenever I get involved with someone, it's like i get so wrapped up and focused on the relationship that I feel like I really sacrifice other areas of my life. When i was in high school and most of college, i wasn't interested in guys. I did AMAZINGLY in school. I was so focused. as soon as i got invovled with the first boy during college, my grades suffered. And my work suffers when i'm involved with someone, because I get so into it. It's NOT HEALTHY. I met an amazing woman during my graduate school - she did well in school, did extracurricular activites, stayed in shape, and was planning her wedding. she had it together. did well in school and had a great relationship. HOW DOES SHE DO IT? that's what i'd like but i know in my experience my schooling suffers if i'm with someone. perhaps that's the sign it's a bad relationship? where the guy doesn't help buiild me up? where i'm forgetting what's important? and letting myself get carried away and too focused on the relationship?

 

I'd really like to figure out the healthy balance. i think this may be a matter of not loving myself enough. because i practically let that fall by the wayside - all that matters to me. it's not good.

 

 

 

That's just how some of us are.

 

I'm the same way and there is nothing wrong with it, unless you feel there is.

 

I put tons of time/energy into my girl and enjoy every moment of it. I do best with those like you who are the same. It's what I've referred to as "pair bonding" on this forum. It's a deeper connection than standard stuff and is also called codependency. I think that's an ugly woird for it, since like great sex and great food, it's one of the things that makes being alive magical.

 

If you feel it's a problem for you, the only way out is to date people who don't get you this wrapped up. Ones you can go a day without seeing.

[Ruby Slippers]

I've figured out that I need to be with someone who supports me in rising to my potential. I'm a very creative, driven person, and I feel a deep need and even a duty to express my potential to its fullest in this life, for the betterment of myself and others.

 

If I'm in a relationship with a man who truly supports me in rising to my potential, it's a given that the relationship will be healthy for me and supportive of my various aspirations, in love, health, work, and all aspects of life.

 

The more fulfilled you are as an individual, the more you have to bring to every relationship in your life. It all starts with you. Your body is the temple, and you're not much good to anyone unless you're healthy and strong.

[Els]

Balancing various priorities in life is tough for sure. I still struggle with it, too. But IMO it's something you just have to try to learn, and I don't think it necessarily points towards you being 'in a wrong R' (unless there are other signs of it being wrong). I mean, we all have 24 hours a day, and nobody can dilate Time to any significant extent just yet. So even people in good relationships do have to split their time between work, friends, health, SO, etc.