xxsouthrnbellexx Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 I just found out last night from my just recent ex B that my ex before him J still loves me and is still in love with me. J and I broke up almost 2 years ago but have always kept in contact with each other and seen each other on occasion too. My other ex B and I just broke up a few days ago but it was bound to happen b/c we have been arguing a lot lately and we're just so different. B told me that we should remain friends for a month then talk and see if we can get back together and see if things will work out between us. I honestly feel that no matter how much time we take apart things will never work b/c we are so different. We have totally different tastes and very little in common which makes our relationship difficult. J and I however have so many things in common...J and I were together off and on for about 2 years and B and I were together for 4 1/2 months then friends for 3 months then together for almost 3 months again and now back to friends. However, since I found out last night that J still feels that way about me I don't know. I never stopped thinking about him that way but I've never said anything to B b/c it wasn't fair to him and I was with him and loved him. I do love them both but I'm really confused. I don't know what to do if J wants to try things again b/c B wants to take a month and be just friends and then see if this will work. I don't want to hurt anyone but I don't know what to do. I know that no one can tell me what to do but if someone has any kind of idea on what to do please feel free to reply. Btw, sorry I made this kinda long. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 why not tell them Both......"Sorry, it is over. That is why we are ex's" then stasrt NC forever and move on. There are too many good men out there to need to recycle through them! Link to post Share on other sites
Author xxsouthrnbellexx Posted May 27, 2005 Author Share Posted May 27, 2005 I found some things online that B has lied to me about. He is trying to find someone. He told me that if I went through with this month then he wouldn't get with anyone else and he wanted this to work. He's been looking and posting profiles and sending out messages for other women behind my back. He even did this w/in the past week when we were still together and none of this had even come up to a breakup yet. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 27, 2005 Share Posted May 27, 2005 It seems to me that you care more about how they feel about you than how you feel about them. As much as I understood, you think that things with B will never work out. At the same time you have feelings for J and he has them for you too. If you have decided to break off the relationship with B then what he thinks shouldn't matter to you. Just because he wants to take a one-month break then be friends and see how things go doesn't mean that you have to accept that. You work for yourself. If you feel like giving J another chance, go for it. Make a contact and find out how he really feels about you. Make the step that you will benefit from, not what you think they would want you to do. You live your life for yourself. After all, living a lie in order to please someone will harm them more than cutting them out for the right reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
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