Girlfriend never makes the plans

[Qboro90]

If she text me asking how I am or anything should I not reply at all or should I correct her let her know that I didn't end this, and that I know that she was trying to flip it on me? Or shall I just leave it ? Act cool and remain calm

 

This girl clearly doesn't have a clue what she wants or what she's doing. Whatever you do, do not let her sweet talk and apologize her way back into a one sided relationship. Girls like her don't change until they're forced to or they simply don't change and gravitate towards tumultuous relationships with guys that put her down. This isn't your fault, you did everything you could do to show her what a good guy can look like. The only thing you need to use going forward is to have a bit more backbone for your next girl and don't allow so much lee way and benefit of the doubt attitude when they can't see you or make up excuses.

 

Fact is, when you like someone enough, you make the time to see them and it's more than a couple hours on Sunday afternoon... As long as her friends weren't going out somewhere that day. It sucks but she didn't like you the same amount you liked her and isn't mature enough to realize it anytime soon. The only thing you can do to benefit yourself is to show that backbone now and actually become that full package.

 

When she reaches out, stand firm.. Don't reply immediately. Later that night or the following day , disregard whatever she says trying to pull the "so are you saying it's over" routine?. She knows what she said and intended so don't let her act naive.

 

Show that you're not the guy she can just drop when she feels pressured or asked for more of an emotional investment and then picked back up once things subside and act for a few weeks until it all comes back again. If you establish that you'll take her back now, I guarantee you that she's gonna continue to break up then apologize and "I made a mistake I'm so sorry, I realized how amazing you are" right after she hooks up or sleeps with a random guy and he treats her like a one night stand and nothing more.

 

"Whether or not uou choose to own up to it or not, you made it very clear where you stand as far as your feelings towards me and a relationship. While I still care about you it's pretty clear that you do not know what or who it is that you want at this point in your life. But I have higher expectations and standards that I want my gf to have so I don't think it's a good idea to hang out for a while to avoid having this same conversation 2 months from now again with no change.

[python23]

Thank you very much for your time. I know where I went wrong slightly, I never treated her badly at all; I was amazing to her and so loving and understanding about what she was doing and how busy she was, on the needy scale I was probably a 1/10.

 

She's a stunning girl, gets a lot of attention, her ex still texts her and the signs have been there that's she's not over him at all. She put on Facebook just last week that its time to delete everything. She told me a few days later that she was talking about all their pictures and texts.

 

How can she be in another relationship while thinking things like that still, about a lad that cheated on her and left her for another girl. Even though she said I wasnt a rebound I know I was.

 

Her mum loved me and said i was amazing to her but I know that's not enough. She knew was she was trying to do when she brought up this chat but she has gone about it the wrong way completely, I feel I deserve far more respect than that. I want to tell her that in a way but I don't want to look affected by it. She's used to guys chasing her but that won't be happening from me, 4 years ago I would have. I've learnt from previous mistakes to walk and never look back when it's not your fault.

Edited December 11, 2015 by python23