going to the same uni as ex's girlfriend

[opalant]

(Didn't know where to put this.)

 

Last year me and my long term boyfriend split up for a couple of months and during that time I was seeing someone else, to me it was just a bit of fun but he got too serious too fast and so I ended it, he then slept with another girl, a couple of days later he came back to me saying that he wanted something casual too now so we started again.

 

The girl he'd slept with was super pi**ed off because she had feelings for him. I got dragged into so much drama, her friends were threatening to punch me etc, so I ended it, blocked them all and carried on with my life. Him and the girl then ended up in a relationship for around a year.

 

About 2 months ago I kissed someone who happened to have the same name as him, while I was telling my friends at college what I'd been up to at the weekend I told them about the kiss, but the girl that earlier caused drama overheard and automatically assumed that I'd kissed her boyfriend (who I haven't spoken to in a year). Yet again it all kicked off, her friends write posts about me on social media (not very nice ones) and it's all so pathetic.

 

I ignore it, I don't even rise to it because it's so ridiculous. But I've been told she's applying to my first choice uni, AND the same course, and I don't know how to handle it if we do both end up going there. My anxiety's been playing up really bad and I can just see myself just not going in if she's there.

 

But also I really don't want to not go and go to somewhere that I don't like as much just because of her. I haven't even done anything wrong, but I get the blame for her boyfriend messing her around. They've actually now broken up because of that missunderstanding, so pathetic.

[minimariah]

go to the Uni, sweetie.

 

if she continues to harrass you along with her friends - gather all the evidence and report them to the authorities and file for some kind of restraint order.

 

you reporting should be enough to get them away from you.

 

also - do not shy away. if necessary - speak up publicly about being harrassed by her friends and how it makes you feel bad and anxious. you're being bullied and do NOT let that girl bully you out of your dreams.

 

get authorities on her a*s and tell others how bad you feel about the bullying, seek support.

[opalant]

I was thinking of just going up to her and clearing stuff up, because she's never even spoken to me before, neither have her friends, and they're all judging me on things that aren't even true. But I was thinking she probably won't believe anything I say anyway. :/

 

Me and the girl are so alike that we'd probably be besties if all of this hadn't happened it's ridiculous hahaha.

 

But thanks for your advice! I'll speak to my friends about it if it gets worse and maybe instead of getting a restraining order just speak to the university support and see if there's anything they can do.