Thanks for the random acts of generosity

[dgiirl]

Since the day my husband left, I've received many random acts of generosity. Besides thanking the person, I thought it would be a nice thread to thank these people, even tho they'll never read it If you have anyone to thank, feel free to contribute

 

To the visiting reverend lady: Thank you very much for cleaning off the snow from my car. Even tho I've never met you before, and probably never will, thank you. Coming out of the mall on a snowy night, you decided to clean the back of my car before you even started with your own. This random act of generosity took me by surprise on a night where I thought I was completely alone. I did not understand why you decided to do that, but it definitely changed my whole perspective on myself and people.

 

To my next door neighbour: Although we've yet to get to know each other, thank you for mowing my front lawn. I've been neglecting my yard, and cannot really depend on my husband to come and do it. I was planning a huge long day of yard work, deweeding, mowing, and gardening. You just came out and started mowing my front yard with your mower while I was deweeding these huge ass weeds. This was totally unexpected and greatly appreciated, especially since my husband never bought a gas mower, and all I have at the moment is a push mower.

 

To my online internet buddy: Thank you for boosting my self-confidence. We've known each other via forums/online games, but never really got to know each other personally. But you being there, just telling me straight up that I'm not an ugly hag has helped lol When your SO leaves you for another, your self confidence gets shot to hell. It helps to hear the truth, and making me realize that you're not just being "nice".

 

To my friend: Thank you for calling the gang and breaking the news. I couldnt stand the thought of calling each one up, one by one, to tell them the whole story. I cannot thank you enough for telling everyone.

 

To my boss: Telling me that I have a job as long as I need one has been a termendous burden lifted off my shoulders. Although the company is going through some funky situations, thank you for your understanding, compassion, and support.

 

To everyone who's lended an ear: Thank you very much. Just being able to say my story ad nauseam has been a great healing experience. Although I'm rotating ears, just being able to repeat and hearing your advice/support, has helped me realize that I'm not alone in the world, and I'm a nice person.

[tokyo]

Good things come to good people.

[greenhorn]

A touching post dgiirl,

 

I would like to quote someone here "Our experiences repeatedly prove that sorrow is the inseparable companion to man, his eye-opener, his true teacher of philosophical truths, without which perhaps he would remain spiritually ignorant"

 

 

After sorrowful times, we change and we see things in different presepecitive, many thing which we don't even notice in our good times, becomes source of happiness in our troulbled times.

 

It happened with you, you have become more wise, more insightful, more appreciative and more understanding.

 

I am happy for you,

 

spread the word around

 

good luck

[dgiirl]

Originally posted by kooky

Good things come to good people.

 

Thanks kooky. You made me cry (Yes, I'm overly sensitive these days)

 

Originally posted by greenhorn

After sorrowful times, we change and we see things in different presepecitive, many thing which we don't even notice in our good times, becomes source of happiness in our troulbled times.

 

Yes these are definitely the sources of my happiness. I only hope I keep this perspective when things go back to "normal". It all started with this out of towner reverend lady who came to my city for a women's conference. Total stranger just cleaning my car a month after my ex left. It really shocked me and touched my heart. My ex's goodbye speech was how I'm a bad person, that I deserve everything that's happening because all I do is take, and this is the universe's way of balancing things out. Meanwhile, since he's left, all I've been receiving is very generous acts of kindness.

[tokyo]

dgiirl, I swear to you, there must be something like karma. There are two things in my life that keep repeating, guys tend to like me when I don't like them anymore and every time I talk/mutter/mumble something bad about a stranger who is bugging me or even when it's only some kind of judgemental or intolerant thought in my head, that person who I don't know at all or not very well, does something nice for me. I hate how my intolerance embarasses me sometimes.

[dgiirl]

Originally posted by kooky

guys tend to like me when I don't like them anymore

 

lol I'm hoping that'll be true for me too. I know whenever I was simply friends with a guy, as soon as I got a bf, the guy tells me he likes me.

 

and every time I talk/mutter/mumble something bad about a stranger who is bugging me or even when it's only some kind of judgemental or intolerant thought in my head, that person who I don't know at all or not very well, does something nice for me. I hate how my intolerance embarasses me sometimes.

 

lol I think that's normal. Things tend to repeat themselves until you learn the lesson from it

 

My stbxh is a big believer in karma. But isnt it _bad_ karma to tell someone they are bad and they deserve everything that's about to happen? It astonishes me that he believes in not hurting people, and yet he says that to me as he's leaving. The decent thing would have been to just leave. Not lay guilt/blame on me as he's leaving. I'm not perfect, and there might be valid reasons for him leaving. But the method that he choose to leave is just messed up.