lovehero Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 A few months ago I met a good looking girl on a chat site. We quickly added each other on skype, and have since then chatted almost every day, both on skype and the chat site. We want to meet up for the first time in a couple of weeks. We played a game of 'Truth or Dare' on skype today, but we allways choose Truth , anyway this is how our conversation went: me: Truth or Dare? her: Truth me: Am I your favourite guy on your skype? -- (I was confident she liked me the most) her: Let me think me: She has to think about it her: One of my favourite -- (I was kinda shocked since I didn't expect that answer at all) me: So I have got a rival her: Tsssss -- we talked about some other stuff, but a short time later I continued on the subject me: Do you only have persons from the chatsite on your skype? her: Yes, I do have an other skype adress with family and close friends me: damn I thought I was your favourite guy from the chatsite her: you THINK too much -- she prob. said this because I often see her talking with other men on the chatsite, which makes me think she is interest in them. She then ended our convo by saying she was going to watch television. So I don't know what to think about this whole conversation, she obviously speaks to some men on her skype. But I don't know who they are and how she acts towards them. I really thought we had a great connection, but I'm not sure now. I don't even know how to react anymore towards her. I hate too start talking about it again, as it shows I'm jealous and it may push her further away. And I hope I can smile on the webcam tomorrow when we chat again Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Well, you've gambled, you set yourself a trap, and was caught in it... You can't know anything from her answers. You might be her favorite guy and she wouldn't admit it, and you might not. If I were you i would have gambled again. Have another Skype with her, that she wouldn't think this con had an effect on you, and after the next Skype, disappear. If she likes you, she will reach out. If she doesn't, well, i wouldn't want to talk to a girl that doesn't try to reach out for me at all... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Young Man, Please do not put any stock in an internet romance. Nine times out of 10 the person on the other end of the computer is not whom they say they are. Please date somebody you can touch, and look into their eyes on a daily basis. People get all giddy about the feelings that are generated by someone on the other end of the computer and Nine times out of ten its all a charade. Even if you are skyping on video with someone you have never met, you cannot be sure that they come as advertised until you meet them. Even then, you just never know. I would not put too much stock in her answers, because if she is as good looking as you say she is, then she probably has a binder full of guys that are clamoring for her attention. And for all you she maybe in a relationship with one of them. Just don't get your hopes up....again, date somebody you can see, touch and look deep into their eyes..that's real. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 I really thought we had a great connection, but I'm not sure now. You may have a really good connection but you are both still single. It sounds like you weren't on the same page about being exclusive. Now that you know where she stands, you have to approach it the same way. I don't even know how to react anymore towards her. I hate too start talking about it again, as it shows I'm jealous and it may push her further away. And I hope I can smile on the webcam tomorrow when we chat again I know you must be feeling really disappointed right now but try not to let it ruin everything. You are right, if you keep bringing it up it will push her away. Just take a step back and take things slowly. See how things go when you meet. Take it from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Samhain Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 It's kinda the same as two people meeting up for the first time from online dating and one saying to the other "but I thought I was your favourite".. There's too much choice to know anything at that point. But this is made even more silly by the fact you haven't even met! To call somebody a "rival" for someone you have only spoken to on the internet is absurd. There are many nice people you will come across in cyberland, some of them will even be very attractive. But you cannot invest anything emotionally into anybody that you can't see and talk to face to face. And I don't mean on a webcam. Sure you can meet people who draw you in or interest you online, but until you are in that face to face in person situation, nothing means anything and it's all fantasy. I.E you are building up an image inside your head of somebody because you have no physical face to face knowledge of them. So a lot is left to the imagination, therefore your imagination being what it is, will automatically conjure up positive things that are endearing to you. There is no reality. If she wants to meet up then go for it, but until that has happened, invest very little. From what I can see, she isn't investing all that much into you, either. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 We want to meet up for the first time in a couple of weeks. Nothing is real until you meet. Until you meet it's all just fun and games. Let me say that again so that you understand it... Nothing is real until you meet. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Nothing is real until you meet. Until you meet it's all just fun and games. Let me say that again so that you understand it... Nothing is real until you meet. Exactly! She should be talking to others as she hasn't even met you yet. If she were to come here asking advice, we would tell to not take you seriously until you've met AND gone on several actual dates. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Oh boy. You didn't 'meet' anyone. You've been chatting on your computer. As was mentioned, it's all fantasy nonsense until you actually meet in the flesh and begin nurturing a REAL relationship. Until then, it's all silly computer stuff. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Glitters Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 You've been chatting toyour computer. Fixed for you Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehero Posted December 2, 2015 Author Share Posted December 2, 2015 Yeah I know we haven't met in real life yet. We are planning to meet each other in a few weeks, but we were busy with other stuff these last months. I just need some advice on what to do/say Thanks for the replies so far. Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 The only thing to do is not have any expectations and not get invested with anyone until you've actually met in person face to face. Until you've met, you're strangers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 There is no advice on what to do or say except what's already been said. This is how the game is played! Especially when when you're dealing with people you meet on chat sites. Options are abundant. That's not to say you can't eventually become her favorite or even replace all others BUT to expect it at this stage is just ridiculous and naive. Like others have said, you have to actually meet in the flesh in order for this to have any chance of becoming a real relationship. As for now, chalk it up to a lesson learned; never ask a question you're not absolutely certain you know the answer to already. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
WomenWubber Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 If someone asked me who's your favorite guy, I would something on the lines of "obviously, myself". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 If someone asked me who's your favorite guy, I would something on the lines of "obviously, myself". I'm just happy to see somebody using a Big Poppa Pump Avatar! I was watching a Ring Ka King match of his the other night when he ran into the crowd and scared the crap out of the kids and the cops had to hold the crowd back Scott got them totally riled up. lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WomenWubber Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 I'm just happy to see somebody using a Big Poppa Pump Avatar! I was watching a Ring Ka King match of his the other night when he ran into the crowd and scared the crap out of the kids and the cops had to hold the crowd back Scott got them totally riled up. lol Lmao thanks. Just looked that up on youtube. No sympy at all for them Indians, I see. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 Yeah I know we haven't met in real life yet. We are planning to meet each other in a few weeks, but we were busy with other stuff these last months. I just need some advice on what to do/say Thanks for the replies so far. At the risk of stating the obvious, go on an actual date with her...if you can ever get one to happen The fact that it's been months of messaging and still no in-person date, should really concern you. Too busy to meet but can spend months Skyping and chatting??? Really? Explain. Link to post Share on other sites
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