a go-between

[darkmoon]

So this new new friend of mine (we are both female) meets me for a coffee on her invite, and we chat ok and she also shows me a photo of her dad, a widower, telling me he is good-looking.

 

Before this, she had asked me three times on three separate occasions if I thought a mutual acquaintance was good-looking after he had left to go home from birthday celebration outings that is, she asked me then.

 

Last time we met up was the dad's photo thing and also, new, a direct question on what I think of the guy she already mentioned those three times, talking behind his back (meh).

 

We all met through our birthday restaurant dinner celebrations over time, over a year. Four of us women, plus the three-times guy and his male friend. Six people in all.

 

Two of the women are my long-term friends and yet she only invited me for the coffee and the recommendation of her dad that started this thread off.

 

So - is she a go-between or not?

I see something a bit sneaky, a bit surreptitious, going on.

Edited December 2, 2015 by darkmoon

[preraph]

Why not just ask her, You seem like a bit of a matchmaker. Are you trying to find a woman for your friend and your dad? I would not be upset by this. Especially with the dad, I would be flattered, but it is true she may not consider you quite a peer if the guys she's tempting you with are older or if she seems only to have that agenda. Still, I wouldn't be offended by it. Continue to be honest about whether you think someone is attractive or not and be grateful that so far she hasn't simply just surprised you by bringing them along. If you're not in the market, tell her that too, or tell her the type you like. Hell, she might just find you one you really like!