Yippip Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I don't understand why some people think it's ok to yelll at a person who is having a panic attack. Whenever people yell at me i start shaking and crying. Most of the time they back off and feel bad which makes me feel bad. But other times people like my uncle and grandmother will stand there and continue to yell at me even if I'm sobbing and hyperventilating. It hurts that they would do that and act like what's happening is nothing to them. They're just so insensitive. I don't cry amd panic on purpose. I wish i could hold it back but i can't. My uncle says i need to "toughen up" because I'm an adult (I'm 20) and that he's going to treat me like an adult. Why is being an ******* to someone in a vulnerable state somehow the same as treating them like an adult? How is ignoring my panic attack and making the situation more stressful supposed to help me? I would never kick someone in that type of emotional state because i know how it feels. It makes me feel cornered, attacked and like there's no safe place to turn to and my anxiety only gets way more severe and it makes me take longer to calm down. Why do people like my uncle and grandmother think they're helping me by being so mean? Having someone nice to talk to and distract me helps me so much more and i calm down quicker and actually makes me feel like someone cares. Sorry if i sound like I'm bitxhing. I just wish people were more aware of how not to treat someone when they're having a panic attack. Btw my uncle and grandmother don't yell at me because of my anxiety. If they happen to be mad at me they won't stop yelling despite the fact that it's upsetting me. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 (edited) I've had to learn to not yell because I found that it only exacerbates a bad situation. That being said, yellers yell for different reasons. Some do it because they are angry and frustrated and feel like they are not being heard. Some just think it's a normal way to behave. Others do it deliberately to frighten their opponent into submission. And others do it because they are lacking the civil words required to resolve a discussion. As far as resolving the issues, it's important to know why they are yelling at you. What kind of things are they yelling about? What is your living situation? To solve the problem, start by looking at their issue and see if they have a point. If they do have a point, go to them and acknowledge the issues. When they know that you hear them and are doing your best to address the problem, the yelling is likely to stop. This is assuming that the thing they are upset over is something which can be fixed. Edited December 3, 2015 by basil67 punctuation 1 Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 Yelling is not a healthy or effective way to approach an issue. With that being said, you really should seek treatment for your anxiety - the sooner, the better. You're going to face many stressful situations in life, and breaking down every time is going to make life very hard for you. Cognitive behavioural therapy can be life changing for sufferers. Get stuck into it. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 They are treating you poorly and instead of supporting and loving you, being kind and helpful during your anxiety and panic attacks, they are being sh.itheads! Shame on them!! DO try CBT as almond suggested. It'll help you get control of your anxiety and you will learn coping skills so you can work through the anxiety in a healthier way. Link to post Share on other sites
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