She's breaking up with her boyfriend: wait or move on?

[hakim]

A little update about the girl I'm interested in:

 

I overheard that she's ending it with her BF today, or by the very least by the weekend. She's pretty much given up all hope and does seem quite down/not herself.

 

We're definitely attracted to one another and there's quite a lot of chemistry/banter/teasing going on between us, but the trouble is that since she's in this transitional period, I don't think it's the best time to be thinking about asking her out. I also think it would be a very bad idea to be her "therapist", so I won't bring up anything about it and I'll just sympathise.

 

My question is, should I wait for her to be "ready" or do I simply move on?

[PegNosePete]

How old are you both?

 

How long was she with her boyfriend?

 

Who did you "overhear" this from? Is it a reliable source? Has the boyfriend also "overheard" it?

[hakim]

How old are you both?

 

How long was she with her boyfriend?

 

Who did you "overhear" this from? Is it a reliable source? Has the boyfriend also "overheard" it?

 

Cheers for the reply Pete,

 

 

So they were together for 2 years. She never mentioned anything about him when we were flirting/teasing/whatever... so I took it as a good-ish sign.

 

The source is very reliable since it came from her. She was speaking to her friends about it right in front of me at the table during this seminar.

 

As far as I know, the (ex) boyfriend is away.

[hakim]

How old are you both?

 

How long was she with her boyfriend?

 

Who did you "overhear" this from? Is it a reliable source? Has the boyfriend also "overheard" it?

 

Double post, sorry. My computer is dying haha!

[PegNosePete]

Let me get this straight...

 

She is the type of person to talk about dumping her boyfriend to her friends, in a seminar where other people can overhear?

 

She flirts/teases with other guys behind her boyfriend's back?

 

And you want to apply for the job??

 

Would not touch with someone else's bargepole.

[Redfisher]

I agree 100% she will do the same to you...

[hakim]

I agree 100% she will do the same to you...

 

 

Not if I play my cards right and don't drop myself into the rebound guy or friendzone.

 

I'm more than certain, through experience, that girls tend to have dropped out relationships weeks before pulling the plug completly.

 

It's not like she was kissing me and fooling around when she was still with her boyfriend!

[No Limit]

Not if I play my cards right and don't drop myself into the rebound guy or friendzone.

 

But this isn't under your control. Especially when you're timed closely to the breakup there's a big chance you'll fall into the rebound trap, or that she'll keep you on the hook to ease her ego some and simultaneously sleep with her ex to get him back.

[hakim]

But this isn't under your control. Especially when you're timed closely to the breakup there's a big chance you'll fall into the rebound trap, or that she'll keep you on the hook to ease her ego some and simultaneously sleep with her ex to get him back.

 

So how's it not in my control if I decide to hang back and date other women?

 

Who knows, she might be the kind of girl who doesn't rebound? Even with the experience you may have you can't predict an outcome.

 

There's this blond chick who digs me and there's another girl I'm getting some signs from too... I'm not going to get stuck on the one from the OP.

[hakim]

Let me get this straight...

 

She is the type of person to talk about dumping her boyfriend to her friends, in a seminar where other people can overhear?

 

She flirts/teases with other guys behind her boyfriend's back?

 

And you want to apply for the job??

 

Would not touch with someone else's bargepole.

 

 

The only person in the room other than her two friends and herself, was me.

 

From personal experience and know-how, girls, towards the end of their relationships are already on the lookout for a replacement and/or rebound.

 

You know the questions some people ask here: "How did my ex GF get with someone so soon after our break up?" ... yeah, it's because she had found someone else. This is obviously exclusive to the dumpers.

 

I'm still at the interview stage, thanks.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

From personal experience and know-how, girls, towards the end of their relationships are already on the lookout for a replacement and/or rebound.

 

In all of your infinite wisdom, why do you ask about interest then?

A girl plays with her hair, but you aren't sure if it's a sign of interest from them?

She talks loudly of the breakup in front of you, obviously by choice,

The venue you described screams to me that she purposefully wanted you to hear her voice.

 

Yet, your fear is that you'll become the rebound guy,

and with your infinite wisdom, you still beg to ask the question, 'why?'.

A rebound is someone used to fill a void that is there,

How will you know you were the rebound? Hindsight is 20/20, and rarely fair.

[smackie9]

She's just flirting because her BF never gave her the attention she craved. It's just an ego boost for her.....she's just using you for the attention.

[hakim]

In all of your infinite wisdom, why do you ask about interest then?

A girl plays with her hair, but you aren't sure if it's a sign of interest from them?

She talks loudly of the breakup in front of you, obviously by choice,

The venue you described screams to me that she purposefully wanted you to hear her voice.

 

Yet, your fear is that you'll become the rebound guy,

and with your infinite wisdom, you still beg to ask the question, 'why?'.

A rebound is someone used to fill a void that is there,

How will you know you were the rebound? Hindsight is 20/20, and rarely fair.

 

What does this give without the rhymes Shakespeare?

[smackie9]

Hindsight is 20/20: IE: An individual has a realization about the event that should have been obvious all along, yet they didn't catch on because they were acting in the heat of the moment.

[Darren Steez]

Not if I play my cards right and don't drop myself into the rebound guy or friendzone.

 

I'm more than certain, through experience, that girls tend to have dropped out relationships weeks before pulling the plug completly.

 

It's not like she was kissing me and fooling around when she was still with her boyfriend!

 

Haha typical dude thinking with his johnson. So she LOUDLY proclaims she's dumping her boyfriend in front of everyone that can hear..including the dude that's been flirting with her (might I add she allowed this flirting while still together with her boyfriend and while her boyfriend was away)

 

You talk about chemistry and blah blah blah. Again you meet her while she was still with dude, so right off the bat you know this girl doesn't have boundaries and will at least entertain another dude if she's going out with you.

 

You think you're playing the game but she's playing you. Dumping dude because she knows she has a suitor, so it's not really breaking up to be alone, it's more she's found something more interesting so she's giving it a go. Problem with that is once your relationship has run it's course, it will happen to you.