hittey Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 hi! so my boyfriend broke up with me about a week and a half ago. we have been dating for 6 months and e very quickly fell in love with each other. sharing the same personality, values, friend group etc. things were growing great until his ex (they dated 1 and 1/2 ago for 1 year, she broke his heart and for a year didn't talk to him except for saying how much she hated him and trashed talked him behind his back) came up to him and apologized and wanted to be friends again. they immediately started talking all the time, texting, and hanging out one on one. my boyfriend realized i was looking uneasy from it so he constantly asked me if i was okay. i told him i was so happy for him to reunite because i knew how they were best friends more then they were bf and gf (they dated in grade 8-9, were in grade 12 now). i told him it wasn't up to me to choose who he could and couldn't be friends with. time passed and it continued them constantly being together, all of his friends (who are my friends too) did not like it because they really dislike her, his parents got very mad to because they really don't like her. at times i would get very upset and he always told me he wanted to make me feel better and hated making me sad, but nothing ever changed, time and time again i forgave him and allowed myself to take the blame. one day after our friends gave him an intervention, and he recently got in a big fight with his parents he told me that he believed he wasn't a good guy for me because he was hurting me to much. he said that he is getting messed up from all his family and friends getting mad at him, he said i am the only one who actually cares for his feelings. we were crying and crying together and saying how much we loved each other. he told me once he figured things out that we could possibly get back together. i struggle with suicide and an eating disorder, and he was the only one who could help. so one night coming very close to suicide i texted him (this was our first time of communication) and i told him what was happening. he tried to call me but i wouldn't pick up, so he called my mother. he was able to talk me out of it. i asked him what was going on and he told me that he was really going through a lot and he needed space for now, and that i have to get over him because i will find a good guy. he reiterated how he's always here if i need to talk. the thing is everyday he's walking the halls and hanging out with his ex even though he promised me and all our friends they wouldn't get back together. i trust that he won't but it still worries me. its really hard since i hangout with the whole friend group and he is too but i can't talk to him since i know he wants space for now. i know i can survive without him but he makes me want to live. i don't know if i should let go or hold on. Do you think were going to get back together? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 ...i know i can survive without him but he makes me want to live. i don't know if i should let go or hold on. Do you think were going to get back together? How old are you..? Nobody but you should make you want to live. Dependency on someone else for your happiness, well-being and existence, is foolish and misguided to say the least. No, I not only don't think you'll EVER get back together - I think it would be dreadfully, dreadfully unwise, not to say reckless, to even consider such a thing. You're a fragile bird, and while you are under the misconception that he has what it takes to make you live, I actually believe, reading your post, that this has the potential to do the exact opposite. He loves her, in spite of what everyone else seems to be telling him, and no matter what their opinion, what they feel for one another is stronger than both of them. And it beats you to a pulp. He tried letting you go, and leaving you gently. Listen to him and see what he's doing. Actions speak louder than words. He's with her, and he's in that for the foreseeable future. Please seek some form of PROFESSIONAL support and counselling. Your needy dependency on his attention is utterly soul-destroying for you, and you deserve better than this. Be good to yourself. Nobody else is better placed. Link to post Share on other sites
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