CT98 Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 I started dating a girl about 2 weeks ago, we have been on 4 dates. Everything has been great until now, we get along really well, we've slept together, and I really felt like it could be going somewhere. We were supposed to have a 5th 'date' today, I write date in quotation marks, as it was more like just hanging out at my place watching films etc. I text her to say 'Don't forget the DVD! I'll see you later.' She came back to me and say she's got a few things to do and can we do something tomorrow instead. I rang her to say that's not a problem (I know she's very busy), but how about we do something in the evening as I have plans tomorrow. She agreed. She then rings me a couple of hours later to say that she's 'having one of those days where she doesn't feel like leaving the house,' do I know what she means (which I don't), can we do something tomorrow night instead, she will stay over (which she hasn't done yet) and 'make it up to me'. I've agreed to this. But I can't help but feel a bit annoyed & rejected. Reading this post back to myself I think I might be being a bit precious about this, but people cancelling plans is a pet hate of mine, and it's something I make an effort never to do. It's seems feeble excuse, and it kind of feels like she's not all that bothered about seeing me, but then on the other hand I like that she rang me and suggested staying over tomorrow night. What do you think? Do you think I'm making a mountain out of a molehill? Or would you feel the same as me? Everything else is honestly really really good, I've never clicked with any of the other girls I've been with in the same way I have with her. So that's why it's not as easy as just walking away, because I think if I wasn't as into her as I am I would. I really dislike getting plans sorted for them all to fall through at the last minute (I understand this will happen in cases of emergencies obviously). What do you think Loveshackers, am I totally overreacting here or am I right to be 'alarmed' at a possible red flag. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 (edited) Just two weeks and she's dodging you...? Ill take a guess and say that she'll bail on staying over..IMO This is over, buddy...'I could be wrong, but doesnt look promising.. Sorry... TFY Edited December 5, 2015 by thefooloftheyear Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 I'd give her chance to follow up on her word and if she doesn't drop her. I completely understand how you don't like people changing their plans; I wouldn't either, especially if it was someone I was keen to see. Having said that, my ex husband put up with a lot from me on that front and I relied on his understanding. He is still a good friend. I wasn't deliberately trying to be awkward or anything, I'm just not very good at plans and deadlines and had some health problems which meant I didn't feel up to some things when it was time. I still avoid people who I think are going to be fussy about those things as I prefer a much more relaxed approach. Link to post Share on other sites
HowboutthemCowboys Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 I'd definitely wait and see what happens tomorrow. I understand its easy to start to speculate when things like this happen but it may be nothing at all. Link to post Share on other sites
craw Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 Sounds to me that she seems to be going through a wave of depression. Still seems kinda odd for her to be cancelling. Keep persisting! Maybe give her a bit more space. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 You're over reacting! And haven't you ever had one of those days you feel like crap and just want to veg out on the couch and not talk to anybody? It is possible she got her period and wasn't feeling well so to spare you details she said she was just having one of those days.... Don't do anything, let it go and see what happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Divasu Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 Agree. Maybe she was in the hospital or something. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 What ever is going on with her is about her not you. She may be more of an emotional mess then you understand. I have had days when I could not leave the house. In that mind set starting a new relationship would be impossible. I didn't have the energy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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