Lovestinks12 Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 Hey whats up, My ex gf of 4 years broke up with me. 7 months has passed and I still feel upset. I'm trying to move past it, but noticed alot of my triggers are when I'm alone, which is alot. I also realized i have a very small circle of friends and it doesn't really help with the loneliness. I used to speak and talk to my ex everyday and now thats gone, i don't feel the same. I'm not very good at meeting new people because I'm too much in my own head so i do poorly in social settings. I don't know what to do to get past this. People i know dont like hanging with me alone because I suck and dont know how to have a natural conversation and keep it flowing. I really struggle to do social things alone. I remember when i would go out with my friends to a bar, i noticed id shut down and just message my ex. I don't really need many friends so i was content with just hanging with my ex gf. Now that shes gone, i don't know how to move on without adequate social support or just trying to meet someone new. Has anyone been in my shoes and what did you do to fix things? I'm open to suggestions. Link to post Share on other sites
Skullheart Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 I'm going through the exact same thing. I am 32 days of NC and about 2 months since the BU. Like you, I find myself alone quite a bit due to small circles of friends; They are either busy or with their friends. What I do is go for walks in the local park(it's mainly become a daily thing for me.) or just drive and listen to music. They both help me calm down although the driving thing I would recommend do from time to time because of gas. When the day starts to come to an end and it gets dark, I pull out a pencil and paper and write or draw. Artistic or not, working your hardest to try and make a drawing look its best or a story to sound really good helps take your mind off the loneliness. That's just what I do, they help a little to get my mind off of my ex and the loneliness for a brief period. I just hope soon that it will leave my mind for good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lovestinks12 Posted December 6, 2015 Author Share Posted December 6, 2015 It really sucks.. I was so content on just my gf and I. Just having someone who cares to ask what you're up to and reach out and the fact that its gone, I realize how alone I really am. I'm not content with Even the small group of friends I do have. when I was with my ex, I didnt really care to hang with my friends and now I need people in my life more than ever and its not there. I don't enjoy what my friends do. They're really into drinking, but like alcoholic status. I've out grown that phase in my life when I met my ex. I'm 25 now and I'm not really into drinking like that anymore. I enjoyed hanging with my exes friends and I'm no longer in that social circle and it really sucks. my ex gf used to tell my mom that my friends aren't really the greatest and its true to some degree. I'm also not the greatest to hang around since my break up. It really screwed me up and it sucks. I know people say to look on the bright side, but I'm such in a deep hole that I don't know if its possible. Link to post Share on other sites
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