moonwalker86 Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 It's been 20 days since she broke the news to me. We were together for 8 years. She said she needed to "find herself" then I found out she was already invested in another man. It has been full of ups and downs, some days are ridiculously hard, some days I don't know how to feel and other days I feel like walking away is best for both of us. But then my son comes into the picture and I feel like it's all wrong. Then these waves of guilt come and I feel like he doesn't deserve to grow up in 2 homes. It's such bullsh*t. I would give it another shot but she doesn't want to. I hate that she has that choice. The choice to deny him a life with two of us under the same roof. I begged her to give me another chance to prove I can be the man she needs in her life but she rejected my pleas. I said we should go to therapy but she refused. It's unlike anything I've ever experienced. I have no friends to talk to in real life about these problems, I can't talk to my family because they are judgemental and wouldn't know how to cope with it. It's so tough sometimes. All the memories bring back pain, 8 years of memories. Then I think about the future, I think about starting a new life, but then I think about how my life will be in 5 years. I think about what a new relationship would be like and how it just wouldn't feel right. She was supposed to be the one, that's what I believed for so long, so it's hard to just walk away from it. It's so damn hard. Link to post Share on other sites
Reels Posted December 9, 2015 Share Posted December 9, 2015 Reminds me of my girl, who lied to me and I had to find out that she had been cheating. Obviously, just like it was with you, she didn't wanted to be with me again either. Even if there is no intelligent reason behind such happenings, it is true that they still occur. Link to post Share on other sites
ChinadolI Posted December 9, 2015 Share Posted December 9, 2015 It's been 20 days since she broke the news to me. We were together for 8 years. She said she needed to "find herself" then I found out she was already invested in another man. ..... She was supposed to be the one, that's what I believed for so long, so it's hard to just walk away from it. It's so damn hard. Moonwalker - this sounds so familiar to me. I think those "walk away spouses" all have the same excuses. I hope you can find some strength within you to carry on. Sending you lots of hugs. Link to post Share on other sites
LostInNC Posted December 9, 2015 Share Posted December 9, 2015 It is amazing that people can take so many years, dreams, plans, and lives of others and just toss them out the widow. I do understand we were together almost 8 years and thought he was the absolute one for me. Hands down we were going to be together forever but I guess he had other plans. I hope you can pull through this and provide a wonderful life for your son and you, We are all here to listen and encourage. Be strong! Link to post Share on other sites
Author moonwalker86 Posted December 10, 2015 Author Share Posted December 10, 2015 Moonwalker - this sounds so familiar to me. I think those "walk away spouses" all have the same excuses. I hope you can find some strength within you to carry on. Sending you lots of hugs. Thank you, I hope I can find that one day, and I hope if I do find it, that it feels right. Right now it's hard to imagine loving anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author moonwalker86 Posted December 10, 2015 Author Share Posted December 10, 2015 Reminds me of my girl, who lied to me and I had to find out that she had been cheating. Obviously, just like it was with you, she didn't wanted to be with me again either. Even if there is no intelligent reason behind such happenings, it is true that they still occur. What helped you get over it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author moonwalker86 Posted December 10, 2015 Author Share Posted December 10, 2015 It is amazing that people can take so many years, dreams, plans, and lives of others and just toss them out the widow. I do understand we were together almost 8 years and thought he was the absolute one for me. Hands down we were going to be together forever but I guess he had other plans. I hope you can pull through this and provide a wonderful life for your son and you, We are all here to listen and encourage. Be strong! I know, it's such a shock. Sometimes it's like I forget what happened, I forget that she doesn't want to be with me, I could be walking in the mall and it hits me like a ton of bricks, my legs get a little weak it's like hearing the news for the first time again. Thank you for your kind words I appreciate it. I must be strong for my son, who will also suffer because of this, but I have to make this as easy for him as possible. I regret him having to go through this but I have no choice, it's not in my hands anymore. I just have to accept it and comfort him when the news comes out. Link to post Share on other sites
Reels Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 What helped you get over it? Researching those things back that I liked before her. It always helps when you renew your past interests, you can always find some better hobby. Link to post Share on other sites
Author moonwalker86 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Share Posted December 11, 2015 Researching those things back that I liked before her. It always helps when you renew your past interests, you can always find some better hobby. I see. I find it hard to keep my attention on things right now. Things seem so cloudy in my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Reels Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 I see. I find it hard to keep my attention on things right now. Things seem so cloudy in my mind. Because it is pretty new for you. For now, you should just sleep more and check back after a month or few weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author moonwalker86 Posted December 12, 2015 Author Share Posted December 12, 2015 Because it is pretty new for you. For now, you should just sleep more and check back after a month or few weeks. Yea you're right. Sleep seems to be the only thing that comes easy at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
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