Furious Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 being in control, unfortunately i have the ability to control quite a lot of things, yes im powerful i have extensive power over many things i have had these since i was born so being powerful and being able to control information flow is nothing new to me. personally i dont see myself manipulative but i can change the discussion and control situations and send it towards my points, and yes im used to gain what i want (i usually do get it) never used force, money or my position to gain it just to make it clear. but again yes i will have to live with this secret for time being. Well, there you go, you're powerful since you were born and you can live with your secret for the time being. In a way you've fooled some here, but not all of the people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 well i didnt say its small or big secret its a secret which i believe 2 people can live knowing what they did, will it come out i dont know personally i think it shouldn't come out ever. being in control, unfortunately i have the ability to control quite a lot of things, yes im powerful i have extensive power over many things and i have had these since i was born so being powerful and being able to control information flow is nothing new to me. personally i dont see myself manipulative but i can change the discussion and control situations and send it towards my points, and yes im used to gain what i want (i usually do get it) never used force, money or my position to gain it just to make it clear. but again yes i will have to live with this secret for time being. This post sounds very full of ego and maybe even some narcissism. I'm curious to know how you were born with extensive power. Were you born into a powerful and wealthy family? If so, it seems that somehow they missed the boat when it came to teaching you empathy and humility. I guess it comes down to what kind of relationships you want to have with others. If you're fine with shallow relationships that can never reach their full potential for intimacy and closeness then keep doing what your doing. Sounds like you value your ability to control over all else so good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 why it started i dont know, probably no proper answer, reason, or rephrasing every comment i make in regard to why it started it will just make the situation worse. jimmy, even for those omnipotent since birth, knowledge is power. What many are trying to gently point you towards here is, since you don't plan on telling your wife, you should at least try to protect your marriage from future affairs. And doing the work to understand why this one happened - you don't get to say "I don't know" - is the first step in this direction. Staying faithful in a LTR is hard work for everyone. And your resistance to even this simple introspective task indicates you're probably not in shape to go the distance... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 well i didnt say its small or big secret its a secret which i believe 2 people can live knowing what they did, will it come out i dont know personally i think it shouldn't come out ever. being in control, unfortunately i have the ability to control quite a lot of things, yes im powerful i have extensive power over many things and i have had these since i was born so being powerful and being able to control information flow is nothing new to me. personally i dont see myself manipulative but i can change the discussion and control situations and send it towards my points, and yes im used to gain what i want (i usually do get it) never used force, money or my position to gain it just to make it clear. but again yes i will have to live with this secret for time being. OP you do know if your wife finds out about the A you will not have the control you think you do. Also just wanted to point out that being able to change the discussion and control situations is a form of manipulation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 as it seems this is not going the way i thought i am being misinterpreted or im not able to describe the situation so i would not be posting anymore! Which is what we've been waiting for. It's obvious you didn't come here to see what you should do. You have many many posters telling you that your decision to protect your own skin by not fessing up will bite you in the ass at some point, but all you care about is YOUR comfort and YOUR happiness, and you seem to see your wife (hell, everyone) as a tool toward that end. One day, she's going to figure it all out and see in what low regard you hold her...and she will leave, since a woman's #1 need is usually security and honesty and connection. And you're giving her none of that. I hope you remember the warnings when that day comes. Link to post Share on other sites
66Charger Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 (edited) For those who believed. Your emperor has no clothes Edited December 15, 2015 by 66Charger 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Blunt Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 By Jimybronx the difference between me and many others here is ability to control things and situation being in control, unfortunately i have the ability to control quite a lot of things, yes im powerful i have extensive power over many things and i have had these since i was born so being powerful and being able to control information flow is nothing new to me. personally i dont see myself manipulative but i can change the discussion and control situations and send it towards my points, and yes im used to gain what i want (i usually do get it) never used force, money or my position to gain it just to make it clear. Jimmy (If you are still reading) You need help! Your words above that seem like delusions of grandeur and are a barrier to you getting better. Your words above seem contradictory to your words below: By Jimmy bronx i got myself into something and i cant get out of it now so im kind of really messed up right now and i dont know what to do and how, as it seems this is not going the way i thought i am being misinterpreted or im not able to describe the situation so i would not be posting anymore! You are unable to demonstrate your powers that you described about yourself so you run away. In your words above you have claimed great powers but yet you have also been very open about needing help. You have gotten yourself in a situation where you are over your head and have come to this site and asked for opinions. Some of these opinions may be of some help to you but this LS-website is not enough. You need to diligently seek additional professional helps and other helps. Your post below tells me that you are avoiding therapy but do not know why. Does that sound like a good position to hold onto? By Jimmybronx just trying to avoid the therapist for the time being i dont know why Link to post Share on other sites
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