chris maurice Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 For me this isnt really a huge problem. but the fact that im so nice means i get walked on sometimes. im even nice to my ex who broke my heart and treated me like ****. i dont want to lose this quality. but i dont want to be taken advantage off. and i wanna grow some balls and be able to tell someone **** off when it needs to be said. like my ex for instance. im not the type to cuss out someone lol. just wanna be more of a man and be firm with the things i say and do. Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 It's about perceived self worth and boundaries. To me there is a big difference between being nice and being a door mat. Just like there is a difference in my mind between being "polite" and being a a truly nice person. I enjoy surrounding myself with genuinely nice people ...... people who are thoughtful, kind, compassionate, considerate ...... and the list can go on and on. These people live by the "golden rule" - treat others the way you would like to be treated. They don't do it for validation, favors, or recognition ...... they do it because they simply want to. They believe it is the "right" thing to do and find pleasure in such things as being a good listener, holding a door open for someone, paying a compliment without expecting anything in return. A sincerely nice person will treat people of every demographic well ...... regardless of gender, religion, politics, nationality, or race. You should take pride in being a sincerely kind person if that is, indeed, the truth. There can never be too much kindness in this world. I assure you, despite what the haters will say ...... kindness is actually a very attractive trait. Just don't be a doormat when interacting with people. We teach people how to treat us ...... make sure you advocate for your needs being met. You can be kind, but strong. It's an erroneous belief that kindness automatically equals weakness. Make it a point to spend time with people who don't take you for granted and appreciate the good qualities you possess. If you have a good heart then don't seek to change that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 you certainly don't have to swear. you just have to find your boundary, make it known, and stick with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Myragal Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 You shouldn't equate being nice with being weak and a pushover. My boyfriend is about the nicest man I have known...he also has strong ethics and resolve and wouldn't hesitate to do the right thing when the moment calls for it. Link to post Share on other sites
truthtripper Posted December 9, 2015 Share Posted December 9, 2015 I enjoy surrounding myself with genuinely nice people ...... people who are thoughtful, kind, compassionate, considerate ...... and the list can go on and on. These people live by the "golden rule" - treat others the way you would like to be treated. They don't do it for validation, favors, or recognition ...... they do it because they simply want to. They believe it is the "right" thing to do and find pleasure in such things as being a good listener, holding a door open for someone, paying a compliment without expecting anything in return. A sincerely nice person will treat people of every demographic well ...... regardless of gender, religion, politics, nationality, or race. . The above aptly describes one of those Japanese robots I'm thinking of investing in. Unfortunately, no one is perfect and we weren't supposed to be, otherwise love compassion, kindness etc would have no meaning. The best you can do is learn to value and respect yourself and other people will have no choice but to treat you likewise. Link to post Share on other sites
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