Lost my appetite

[memomma]

I have an appointment in the AM to sign my divorce papers. This has been in the works for a long time.

I told my husband last week that I would be signing the papers....he refuses to talk to me about it.

I'm having a bit of a hard time not feeling like I'm the guilty person here. He has been making an effort to heal our marriage ever since I told him I had put the attorney on retainer. Unfortunately, these efforts do not feel genuine to me and my feelings towards our relationship have not changed.

The latest attempt on his part is to organize a cook out for today. We have been married 6 1/2 years and he has NEVER done this before. Usually I do the planning and he may or not be here with us....if he is......he is usually mad or else the tension is so thick between us that everyone is just wanting the meal to be over so they can go about their business. It's never been a relaxing get together when he is here.

So.....I just kind of feel ticked off that he is ruining my holiday with my kids by doing this. I know that sounds completely crazy but it makes me look like I'm the bad guy by going to the attorney in morning after he just cooked everyone dinner tonight. I just don't like feeling guilty....it makes me mad.

[Tony]

You're going to be divorced tomorrow. You will never again be obligated to subject yourself to this guy's day ruining attitude for the rest of your life. You have obviously told him about it, he says he wants the marriage to be saved, yet he is unwilling to change and be more pleasant for the sake of doing that. Poop on him!

 

I guess you're stuck with today...but this is the end. Just let that thought alone make your day great. Ignore his BS and have fun. When you seem him grumpy, find the humor in it. Imagine him as a cartooon character in your mind and whatever he says or does won't bother you a bit. You'll be more entertained than anything that a grown man would conduct himself so ignorantly. Feel sorry for him...because somewhere along the line, some dumb soul taught him to act this way. DUH!

 

We love people because of the way they make us feel. Your soon-to-be-ex does not make you feel good at all. This should only serve as added assurance that a divorce was the best thing. After tomorrow, keep minimum contact with him, let him know he will never again ruin another of your precious days on this planet, and if he tries anything let him know you now see him as a pathetic cartoon character trying to keep his part in a bad cartoon.

 

If that doesn't work, get a restraining order and keep him OUT OF YOUR LIFE FOREVER. You just don't deserve the annoyance and aggravation brought on by a crazy person hell bent on ruining the days of other people. They are the vermin of our lives who have no place in it.