Signs of jealousy

[Electra201]

Hey guys just wondering ur thoughts on this..

It's usually quite easy to tell when women are jealous or feeling insecure since it's hard for them to hide emotions, but it's really hard to read guys since they find it hard to open up. Does anyone know how a guy usually behaves when he's jealous & are there any "signs of jealousy" to look for?

[Guest]

but someone tell me if this sounds like it...

It seems like when my BF got jealous, he would do things like teasing me about the other guy, acting like it wasn't a big deal if the guy was flirting with me, trying to get my attention when another guy was talking to me, etc...

[scarlyjones]

If you and he just recently left another guy or group of guys and your boyfriend starts "cutting" any or all of them down. Like making fun of clothes or hair or job or whatever. Trying to make HIMSELF look better than them without saying "Im better".

 

I had a BF once pretend to hurt himself at a party because he saw that I was talking to another guy. He fake-slipped and fell and caused a huge scene. He insisted we had to leave. I was having a really good time too. He later admitted that it was all fake. LOOOOOSSER

 

They will sometimes act like they "overly" dont care. Pretend that things you KNOW already that bother him dont even phase him. Thats a sign that hes actually MAJOR bothered by it.

 

If you are on the phone with him and your other line rings,....when you get back to HIM he has to nonchalantly ask who it was. You know that even if you told him a 3 minute story before he got a chance to ask,... he didnt hear a word you were saying because the whole time hes thinking "Who the hell was that on the other line?" First break in the conversation, he asks.

 

ALso a key sign that hes a jealous fool is,....if he MUST know what you did, and who you were with whenever time has past that you two werent together.

[st8toftheheart]

Originally posted by Guest

but someone tell me if this sounds like it...

It seems like when my BF got jealous, he would do things like teasing me about the other guy, acting like it wasn't a big deal if the guy was flirting with me, trying to get my attention when another guy was talking to me, etc...

 

I've done that, but not due to jealousy, but because I was question if this is the person I wanted to be with. So by doing that, by promoting this type of behaviour it was building an exit.

 

But I could see this being used as a way to curb ones jealousy. His hope would be by saying that that you would adamantly deny any interest and that he is the only one for you.

[LucreziaBorgia]

I have been with one or two 'jealous' types, and here are a few things they would do:

 

1. Oblique questions about where I had been, and about friends I have: asking a seemingly innocent question that masks the true question.

example:

 

Him: "How did you like that concert last night?" (innocent, but loaded if he didn't know about the concert and found out through his friends who saw me there - and he brings it up first)

Me: "Oh, man.. it was awesome!"

Him: "Did you see anyone else there you knew?"(getting closer to the real question)

Me: "Well, girlX, girlY, guyZ all showed up. It was lots of fun."

Him: "Was guyZ there with a date?" (getting closer to the real question)

Me: "Nah, he came alone - he and I hung out with girlX and girlY."

Him: "Oh, did you and guyZ hang out a lot?." (almost to the real question)

Me: "No more so than usual."

Him: "Than usual? You and he hang out a lot then?" (pretty much there...)

Me: "Well, we hang out sometimes, yes."

Him: "So, you pretty much went to see him then?" (yep, its there)

Me: "No, he just happened to be there."

Him: "Yeah, I bet he 'happened' to be there." (yep, its there)

Me: "What?"

Him: "Have you f*cked him?" (that's the real question)

 

2. Following me around. He shows up in places where I wouldn't expect - and thinks I'm going to see it as a 'coincidence'.

 

3. Has his friends watch me wherever I go. I see his friends in places I wouldn't expect - again, thinking that I'm going to see it as a 'coincidence'. If I talk to anyone, then sure enough - #1 is bound to happen.

 

4. Being a possessive jerk around male friends. As in - he acts like he wants to start a fight with a male friend - acting angry, defensive, chip on his shoulder, being subtly insulting to him.

 

5. He interprets any behavior, no matter how innocent as 'cheating'. A lot of time I would be evasive about answering questions just to avoid unnecessary emotional fallout (like the conversation above) - and that evasiveness would be seen as "proof" that I was sleeping with someone else.

 

6. He wants to know who I will be seeing at any given place. Again - asked innocently, but loaded as hell. Quandary: tell him that there's a chance that a guy might show up, and he'll blow up or... don't tell him and he'll find out, and he'll blow up...

 

7. Questions my friends with the same "innocent" approach.

 

... and so on. It can range from subtle, to outrageous.

[st8toftheheart]

I am actually quite a bad jealous type boyfriend.

 

So its pretty clear when I'm jealous because I get visibly upset. I have the same reaction as if they had done something directly to me like lie to me, or take something without asking and then broke it.

 

Same reaction.

 

I refused to go to a party with my gf once because a guy who she had been intimate with, was there. Because the thought of them being intimate made be sick to my stomach.

 

But I was somewhat reasonable. I didn't her stop her or force here not to go.

 

But then the my attitude becomes. "fine you want to screw him go ahead. See if I care" Only after I tell her its ok, and she's aleady left.

 

Like I said, I'm pretty bad.