Author Akashsingh Posted March 21, 2016 Author Share Posted March 21, 2016 This isn't about you and I am not thin skinned to take it personally for being called a vulture. You have healed but I dont think you have improved to not call others names. She would not be flirting out if there were no strains on her marriage, already. There are women at work who are happily married and they dont flirt at all. As I said, I am not going to do anything to cause further strain in her life. I have done my part and the ball is in her court and I am off to looking for other women. Link to post Share on other sites
Trishern Posted March 21, 2016 Share Posted March 21, 2016 This isn't about you and I am not thin skinned to take it personally for being called a vulture. You have healed but I dont think you have improved to not call others names. She would not be flirting out if there were no strains on her marriage, already. There are women at work who are happily married and they dont flirt at all. As I said, I am not going to do anything to cause further strain in her life. I have done my part and the ball is in her court and I am off to looking for other women. You need to take off the table as a possible GF/partner/whatever. Married people are unavailable. FULL STOP. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
confusedbutterfly Posted March 21, 2016 Share Posted March 21, 2016 This isn't about you and I am not thin skinned to take it personally for being called a vulture. You have healed but I dont think you have improved to not call others names. She would not be flirting out if there were no strains on her marriage, already. There are women at work who are happily married and they dont flirt at all. As I said, I am not going to do anything to cause further strain in her life. I have done my part and the ball is in her court and I am off to looking for other women. The ball is in her court? No disrespect intended but in truth this woman has no romantic interest in you. Period. If she had, she would have made it well known. Sitting next to you is junior high behavior, not grown woman behavior. She mentioned her husband, she is wearing a ring and she has made not one remote suggestion that she wants to explore a relationship with you. You can not categorize all woman as being happily married if they do or do not flirt. I am a flirt by nature and have boundaries with people I work with. You do not know if there are strains in her marriage as it doesn't seem she took you into her confidence to divulge such information. Just leave this woman be and find someone that returns your interest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Akashsingh Posted July 1, 2016 Author Share Posted July 1, 2016 (edited) Based on the feedback from this forum, I had distanced myself from her, unnecessarily worried that she might accuse me of sexual harassment or something like that. Our work relations were conflicted after that in that we both tried to make it work but had a lot of anger and resentment left inside. However, she took about 5 weeks off and I took some time off afterwards as well. She then quit the company and left her job. I was able to meet her after I came back from vacation which were last couple of days of her on the job. Stopped by her desk. Wished her the best. She was nice to me when I met her at her desk but then she avoided me on her last day, some of which is understandable. I have been dumbfounded since I got to know she would be leaving and I would not work with her anymore. I also feel quite guilty of not supporting her enough professionally to feel successful. The feeling is that of a loss. I cried a bit and I also let one of her friends know that her departure was stressful. Edited July 1, 2016 by Akashsingh Link to post Share on other sites
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