Sgthaytham Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 I'm usually very flirty with girls I like, especially those I really like. I touch them a lot, I get really confident and I'll look at them directly a lot and smile. I do pretty much everything to make it obvious and then I see how she reacts. If a girl doesn't like me back she'll usually get distant. I will get the point and move on. This one hasn't, so I feel like she does. I can never be too sure. If you didn't like a guy, would you let him touch your thigh and arm? Would you stare at him and smile for 3-4 seconds. Would you tease/flirt with him? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 Why don't you just ask her out? Her response will pretty much answer your question for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sgthaytham Posted December 8, 2015 Author Share Posted December 8, 2015 Why don't you just ask her out? Her response will pretty much answer your question for you. Because I like safety, and this is safety for me. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 Well, girls don't like "safe" guys. Girls like guys who are confident and outgoing and strong. So grab your balls and take a chance, or forever be sitting on the sidelines!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sgthaytham Posted December 8, 2015 Author Share Posted December 8, 2015 Well, girls don't like "safe" guys. Girls like guys who are confident and outgoing and strong. So grab your balls and take a chance, or forever be sitting on the sidelines!! I'm being safe for myself, not her. Took me quite a lot of balls / confidence to initiate kino with her and to hold lingering eye contact with her. I'm not here to get advice on how to act, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Standard-Fare Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 Allowing the touching and flirting to proceed means one of three things: 1) She's interested. 2) She enjoys the attention but may not necessarily be interested in anything further. 3) She's too shy or polite to halt the advances. (Which you can rule out if that's not her personality.) So, somewhat inconclusive. You should be watching for signs of active reciprocation, i.e. she is touchy and flirty right back at you. But I don't think asking her out is a terrible idea, either. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 A smile alone is polite. She may just be a happy person. A smile, an extended gaze plus touching = green light to ask her out. Nothing is guaranteed but I think you are safe. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Glitters Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 Holding lingering eye contact Yes ! You are in. Notice her behavior with other guys ( if around ). If she is engaging in similar longing eye contact with them as well, you know then ! The holding eye contact is subconscious response from her ( even if you are the one making it happen intentionally)! You know this but she doesn't ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sgthaytham Posted December 8, 2015 Author Share Posted December 8, 2015 Holding lingering eye contact Yes ! You are in. Notice her behavior with other guys ( if around ). If she is engaging in similar longing eye contact with them as well, you know then ! The holding eye contact is subconscious response from her ( even if you are the one making it happen intentionally)! You know this but she doesn't ! This longing eye contact happened last week on Monday. it didn't feel awkward at all, at least not for me and she was smilling back at me when we made the look. I've read it up as the level 5 or 6 of eye contact, apparently. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 If you didn't like a guy, would you let him touch your thigh and arm? I wouldn't let a guy I DO like touch my thigh if we weren't at least dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sgthaytham Posted December 8, 2015 Author Share Posted December 8, 2015 I wouldn't let a guy I DO like touch my thigh if we weren't at least dating. So you'd let a guy you don't touch you? Is that what you're saying? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 So you'd let a guy you don't touch you? Is that what you're saying? Yeah, girls let guys they don't like touch their thighs all the time. Meanwhile back in the real world..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sgthaytham Posted December 8, 2015 Author Share Posted December 8, 2015 Yeah, girls let guys they don't like touch their thighs all the time. Meanwhile back in the real world..... What? I'm answering Lois... I didn't quite understand her sentence. Was it sarcasm? I wouldn't think most people like people they dont like touch them - but that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Standard-Fare Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 I wouldn't think most people like people they dont like touch them - but that's just me. If it were me, I'd only have a quick negative reaction (i.e. jerking my leg away) if I felt alarmed or put off by signs of affection from them, whether friendly or romantic. Like just a flat-out "Nope, let's make this clear: you're never allowed to touch me ever." However in most other scenarios I'd probably just let it happen. In some cases I might assume the person was just affectionate by nature and being cozy with me. In other cases it might be like "Hmmm, where are they going with this? I'm intrigued" -- whether or not I was interested in things going further. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sgthaytham Posted December 8, 2015 Author Share Posted December 8, 2015 However in most other scenarios I'd probably just let it happen. In some cases I might assume the person was just affectionate by nature and being cozy with me. In other cases it might be like "Hmmm, where are they going with this? I'm intrigued" -- whether or not I was interested in things going further. But surely after the point he put his hand on your thigh you'd know he likes you in a more-than-friends way. I've got plenty of non-romantic girlfriends who I wouldn't dare touch on the thigh. I'd restrict touch to upper arms and maybe shoulders. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 But surely after the point he put his hand on your thigh you'd know he likes you in a more-than-friends way. You should totally do this. Grab a hunk of thigh and let that broad know you mean business. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 i think you should ask her out regardless of safety......as far as letting a guy touch my thigh......personally .....i dont like it.....even if i did like him ...touch my shoulder my arm..my hand.....even conk me on the head with a xmas wrapping tube......i wouldnt mind..... but i find thigh touches.....uncomfortable ...deb Link to post Share on other sites
Standard-Fare Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 But surely after the point he put his hand on your thigh you'd know he likes you in a more-than-friends way. I've got plenty of non-romantic girlfriends who I wouldn't dare touch on the thigh. I'd restrict touch to upper arms and maybe shoulders. Yeah, it's true that a thigh touch is pretty overt, but if it's brief (which I'm imagining yours are), like "Haha, we're both laughing at a joke, and I'm tapping you on the thigh," I could potentially chalk that up to an affectionate nature. Some people really are just like that. And/or some people are just broadly flirtatious by nature and they exert that type of vibe to a lot of different people without real intent. I know this is overanalyzing though. As I said earlier, you'd have a better idea by the way she behaves in response. If she's touching you back (particularly if she's mimicking your thigh touches) you can feel pretty confident that she's interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Standard-Fare Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Hey Thigh Toucher, I know of a better test. This happened to me last night with a male friend of mine. We've known each other for years, we have a kind of flirty vibe, but we've never hooked up and I'm not into him romantically. Last night I think he was kind of testing the boundaries... we were at a bar together, and he placed his foot below mine, sort of initiating a little footsies. It took me a minute to realize what he was doing, but it became clear that it wasn't an accident, and I had the choice to reciprocate or withdraw. I politely moved my foot. Conversation continued just fine. So let me suggest the footsies test. She'll move her foot if she's not into you. Link to post Share on other sites
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