Living a boring life

[LoveIsMyReligion]

Hey man hope this finds you well!

 

Back in high school me and my friends would do all types of stupid ****. We would hijack electric scooters from walmart and ride around in them. We would do stupid crap with our "awesome" honda preludes. We would wait outside of liquor stores to have someone 21+ buy us alcohol then go drunk doorbell ditching. Man those were good times.

 

Now most of my friends have moved to different states or have gotten boring and busy with their job and significant other.

 

I'm right there with you man. Now I'm stuck in this loop where I go to work, the gym, and have the occasional date or hook-up. Sometimes I even go to dinner party's, someone call the police!!!

 

In all reality you need to start doing epic **** by yourself and watch others follow suit.

[WomenWubber]

Maybe your life is too structured?

 

Contrary to what fb says, most people live very boring lives. Most are like you. Constantly searching for excitement, but at the same time too fearful to actually make some drastic life changes. The thing is, it doesn't matter if you find excitement. If you're boring, you're going to become bored when the excitement is gone.

 

You have to let go of fear, be bolder and only then you will feel the excitement inside of you.

[GravityMan]

Too much routine, too much rigidity, too much structure, too much sameness in one's day-to-day life is a textbook recipe for boredom. The temptation to remain in your comfort zone may be strong, but I believe some amount of change, of disruption...can bring a breath of fresh air. The word "fear" usually (and accurately) has a negative connotation, but "fear" can also be interesting and exciting. It's like exploring the unknown. Even baby steps into uncharted adventures would be a good start, OP. Or you can boldly go all-in.

 

If you can, traveling somewhere you've never been before is a great idea. Lots of people gain fresh perspectives on life when they travel to someplace with a different culture.

 

Even in the things that you listed here, OP...I see opportunities to interact with others and introduce a bit of change into your life. For instance, depending on where you live, there are yoga places where it's common for yogis to socialize after class. You go to the movies alone? There may be meetups in your area that specialize in movies (both viewing and talking about them)...look into that.

 

Friendships form naturally, and much like romantic relationships they can often happen when you're not expecting it. You just have to start somewhere...take a step forward into that new territory and just go for it and see where it goes. Keep your expectations low or at zero...don't go out "trying" to make friends, just go out and interact with people for the hell of it. Naturally, you may meet a few people that you click decently with and have a few things in common.

 

You mention a couple of "close" friends. Dude, 95%+ of people on Earth only has a handful of close friends...consisting of 1 to about 5 people. The difference is that most people also have a larger circle of non-close friends (10 to 25+) and an even wider circle of acquaintances (30 to 200+). By "non-close" I don't mean that the person likes them less, I just mean that they don't spend as much time together and when they do it's usually for fun, common-interest, live-in-the-moment activities (e.g. a party, a sporting event, etc)...NOT vulnerable serious discussions. By "acquaintance" (which often includes colleagues from work) I mean someone that you talk and laugh occasionally with in a lighthearted way (and maybe meet up for drinks every once in awhile) but don't know all that well. Having decent "outer" circles of friends and acquaintances is healthy and should help ensure that you don't spend too much time in isolation.

 

Life is what you make of it. I think that is what Grumpy was getting at in his post above.

[oberkeat]

Travel, for an extended time. Not a week or two, but a month or two. If you can.

 

I feel like I can reinvent myself when I take myself away from all the people that already expect me to be who they think I am and instead I learn to be who I want myself to be.

 

I travel by myself for work a lot or I use to since I recently retired. I would never go to the bar by myself at home, but on the road I do it all the time and it never feels weird. No joke, women are a whole lot looser when they're on vacation

 

I traveled for work recently and do so a few times a year. The thing is, you can be lonely anywhere. Traveling just isn't as much fun without someone to share it with. What I need is companionship.

[lino]

I traveled for work recently and do so a few times a year. The thing is, you can be lonely anywhere. Traveling just isn't as much fun without someone to share it with. What I need is companionship.

 

True.

 

Travelling is excellent even if it's alone, I love to travel no matter what.

 

It's would get old pretty quickly though if you're always travelling by yourself I'd imagine.

 

Travelling is awesome advice for those who have never left their suburb but these days, in the English speaking countries at least, people like that aren't so common anymore.

 

Travelling alone I'd say is far more beneficial for say a guy who was married young and went through a harsh divorce after 20 years of marriage. He most definitely would gain a lot from the experience as he's likely had very little experience in that sort of thing before.

 

I'd suggest only going down the travelling path if you enjoy it because it isn't cheap! If you don't enjoy it, you'll just end up feeling lonely in another part of the world as you said.

[Imported]

I traveled for work recently and do so a few times a year. The thing is, you can be lonely anywhere. Traveling just isn't as much fun without someone to share it with. What I need is companionship.

 

You say you need companionship, I'm saying you need to be open to finding companionship.

 

Traveling takes you out of your norm and it sounds like your norm is lacking. However if even after going to an area where no one knows you and nothing you do will follow you home (within reason..) and you still behave like the same boring you, then anywhere sucks.

 

 

It's would get old pretty quickly though if you're always travelling by yourself I'd imagine.

 

It never got old! But I always met people.

[deep_night]

you sound pretty normal to me. you're actually doing things with your life and having hobbies.

 

i guess everyday life and routine are supposed to be a bit boring. yes, i agree, you probably need a partner. i tend to feel that everything's boring when im single for a long time. some of us thrive in relationships.

[Popsicle]

Is life supposed to be this boring?

 

Yes, unless you're a rock star, and even they get bored and crave a normal persons life.

[Revolver]

I've heard several people imply or flat out say the reason I'm always single is because I'm "boring" and girls need an "exciting" guy yet I've seen countless men in relationships who are boring by pretty much most people's definition. They rarely go out, rarely travel, and do the same routine every week(Go to school, go to work, come home etc).

[lino]

They mean exciting in the sense of possible danger and also competition from other women.

 

In my younger years I knew drug dealers who had experienced F#ck all in the world and had no other skills than hustling dope but because they were driving a porsche and usually very violent guys, they were gods to women and never saw a minute of being single.

 

Being worldly and educated in a variety doesn't really count for all that much if you watch women's actions rather than listen to what they tell you.