Taking a break in long distance?

[luckyj]

Hey guys, I need your advice.

Me and my unofficial SO have been "together" for 4 months or so now - the reason why I say unofficial is because he never explicitly asked me to be his girlfriend, but we both knew we shared mutual feelings for each other and it was around that time he started to call me his girlfriend and we just naturally went along with it.

We didn't spend much time together from the start, and communicated primarily online; however, he and i went to the same school and i met him in his last semester of his senior year. Now he's graduated and moved 14 hours away; we have not stopped talking via text/phone, and he's come to visit a few times as well.

The issue here is that my parents do not approve of my being in a relationship with anyone, and at this moment I have a lot of things to worry about, and still need time to build up myself. I honestly feel like I am not ready to make a serious commitment. I do love him, and I know he loves me.

He is also two years older than I am, and I know he wants things I feel I am not ready for either (if you know what I'm talking about).

Would it be a good idea to call it a break from this "relationship" we have and then find each other a few years later? I feel like I don't have the time or capacity to make such an emotional investment.

I really do not want to burden him or hold him back by being insecure and indecisive, and I need some time to focus on myself.

 

Please give me some of your thoughts on what I should do. Thank you.

[Brady_to_Moss]

Hey guys, I need your advice.

Me and my unofficial SO have been "together" for 4 months or so now - the reason why I say unofficial is because he never explicitly asked me to be his girlfriend, but we both knew we shared mutual feelings for each other and it was around that time he started to call me his girlfriend and we just naturally went along with it.

We didn't spend much time together from the start, and communicated primarily online; however, he and i went to the same school and i met him in his last semester of his senior year. Now he's graduated and moved 14 hours away; we have not stopped talking via text/phone, and he's come to visit a few times as well.

The issue here is that my parents do not approve of my being in a relationship with anyone, and at this moment I have a lot of things to worry about, and still need time to build up myself. I honestly feel like I am not ready to make a serious commitment. I do love him, and I know he loves me.

He is also two years older than I am, and I know he wants things I feel I am not ready for either (if you know what I'm talking about).

Would it be a good idea to call it a break from this "relationship" we have and then find each other a few years later? I feel like I don't have the time or capacity to make such an emotional investment.

I really do not want to burden him or hold him back by being insecure and indecisive, and I need some time to focus on myself.

 

Please give me some of your thoughts on what I should do. Thank you.

 

Once you say "we or i need a break" just know that you may not ever find each other to be with each other again. I was told she needed a break...and in a LD relationship a break usually doesn't end up well

 

 

If you need time to yourself then you need a break. You come first. But just know that you may not find him again.

[ExpatInItaly]

Only do this if you are prepared to lose him for good.

 

If someone told me they needed a break but perhaps we could find each other in a few years, I wouldn't wait around. You more than likely wouldn't find me in a few years because I'd probably have moved on by then. If we happened to cross paths and both were single, who knows. But I wouldn't hold my breath.

 

I think the mature thing would be to break up with him and explain your reasons. If you know you're not ready for what he's looking for (which is perfectly ok) then let him go.