jen1447 Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 Urine stains everywhere would be analogous to blood stains everywhere, which isn't the case here. We're not talking about them leaving blood all over the floor and walls , we're literally talking about ONE case of blood at the side of the sink and bloody (paper towels? pads?) inside the garbage bin. Given that it appeared all of a sudden after a year, chances are the daughter just got her period and isn't experienced in how to deal with it. Also leaving pee everywhere (or at least the potential to) isn't sth unique to men. Pee's an equal opportunity offender. So you might say a man leaving pee all over the floor and walls would be equal to ....a woman leaving pee all over the floor and walls. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FeelingFireworks Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 (edited) No, not really. I have no issue with men leaving the toilet seat up. Urine stains everywhere would be analogous to blood stains everywhere, which isn't the case here. We're not talking about them leaving blood all over the floor and walls , we're literally talking about ONE case of blood at the side of the sink and bloody (paper towels? pads?) inside the garbage bin. Given that it appeared all of a sudden after a year, chances are the daughter just got her period and isn't experienced in how to deal with it. A better analogue than the one you gave, would be a woman living with her aunt/uncle who have a 15 yo son, and saw Kleenex with white stains inside the bathroom garbage bin. And no, I don't think she should say anything about that either... With all due respect - white stains on a white tissue...unless you actually examined the trash and his spunk stank like hell, I doubt anyone would even notice. Still, I can sorta see your point. Perhaps it was just one episode with blood in this sink. And yes, although using paper towels is a bit of an oddity it is good that she is still using a bin. However, if the girl isnt disposing correctly (ie wrapping it up) then I still think OP should at least let the aunt aware. My reasons? Not cleaning it up to me is not too far off not cleaning the toilet bowl after you take a dump - it's off putting and doesn't show consideration for others using the toilet space. Second, even in an open bin, when period blood is left exposed to the air and not wrapped up, it smells too. And thirdly, if it's the daughter and she ends up cohabiting with others keeping this habit, regardless of their gender, it will be offputting and look unhygienic to them - and best believe those people will NOT tell her to her face. That's why she needs family to tell her. So what if addressing it causes a little initial embarrassment ? I wouldn't want a female family member of mine going through life like that when it could be nipped in the bud early on. Those to me are all good reasons she needs the disposal issue addressed. Also leaving pee everywhere (or at least the potential to) isn't sth unique to men. Pee's an equal opportunity offender. So you might say a man leaving pee all over the floor and walls would be equal to ....a woman leaving pee all over the floor and walls. It doesn't matter. Leaving bodily fluids in full view when you are in a position to clean/wrap it up - Whether it's urine or menstrual blood - isnt acceptable. It doesn't matter if it's unique to women or not. Basically, leave the toilet as you would like to find it. If everyone was as cool with seeing the period blood of others as people here seem to claim, women's toilets wouldn't have ultra discreet closed shutter bins reserved specifically for sanitary products. However, I do see that views vary. These aRe just mine. Edited December 23, 2015 by FeelingFireworks Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 With all due respect - white stains on a white tissue...unless you actually examined the trash and his spunk stank like hell, I doubt anyone would even notice. It's usually quite obvious... Still, I can sorta see your point. Perhaps it was just one episode with blood in this sink. And yes, although using paper towels is a bit of an oddity it is good that she is still using a bin. However, if the girl isnt disposing correctly (ie wrapping it up) then I still think OP should at least let the aunt aware. We don't even know this, though. It's possible that the girl is wrapping her tampons up in paper towels and they're just leaking through. Unless the aunt is blind, I am sure she is capable of noticing without anyone saying anything, and deciding whether to say anything about it to her daughter or not. People tend to get better at handling things with experience, and periods are no different. Also, how people behave with roommates isn't always the same as how they behave in their own home. My reasons? Not cleaning it up to me is not too far off not cleaning the toilet bowl after you take a dump - it's off putting and doesn't show consideration for others using the toilet space. Second, even in an open bin, when period blood is left exposed to the air and not wrapped up, it smells too. And thirdly, if it's the daughter and she ends up cohabiting with others keeping this habit, regardless of their gender, it will be offputting and look unhygienic to them - and best believe those people will NOT tell her to her face. That's why she needs family to tell her. So what if addressing it causes a little initial embarrassment ? I wouldn't want a female family member of mine going through life like that when it could be nipped in the bud early on. Those to me are all good reasons she needs the disposal issue addressed. Well, besides the fact that again, we are comparing apples to oranges - leaving the toilet bowl after you take a dump is akin to nothing else except leaving the toilet bowl after you take a dump... What are we teaching the OP, that it's okay to tell women what to do with their intimate products? IMO it will reflect very poorly on him if he is living with his aunt on her dime and tries to tell her what to do with her own daughter in a matter that is really none of his concern. If he can't stand looking at the bloody paper towels, he should just buy them a bin with a lid, end of the story. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 i have been living with my aunt and her 15yr old daughter for a year now in their house. Few months ago i noticed some dried blood stains on the bathroom sink and i thought it was a cut, no big deal. and the following day i saw paper towels with some dried blood in the trashbin and grossed me, I almost threw up. now every month i see paper towels with dried blood in the trash bin, the trash bin does not have a lid. my problem is how to bring the issue to stop because am grossed up by it. I strongly suspect its my aunt, they are my relatives and thats why its gross and idk how to bring the issue, its also her house and I got lots of respect to her and embarrasing at her age not to dispose correctly. Grainger sells small biohazard garbage cans like you see at doctor's offices. If one of those showed up, it would naturally get used. Seen millions of stained pads and tampons in bathroom garbage. Does it really bother anyone? I have seen maybe a few hundred. Did you work at a women's prison? Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 I have seen maybe a few hundred. Did you work at a women's prison? Common phrasing in the States Link to post Share on other sites
FeelingFireworks Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 It's usually quite obvious... We don't even know this, though. It's possible that the girl is wrapping her tampons up in paper towels and they're just leaking through. Unless the aunt is blind, I am sure she is capable of noticing without anyone saying anything, and deciding whether to say anything about it to her daughter or not. People tend to get better at handling things with experience, and periods are no different. Also, how people behave with roommates isn't always the same as how they behave in their own home. Well, besides the fact that again, we are comparing apples to oranges - leaving the toilet bowl after you take a dump is akin to nothing else except leaving the toilet bowl after you take a dump... What are we teaching the OP, that it's okay to tell women what to do with their intimate products? IMO it will reflect very poorly on him if he is living with his aunt on her dime and tries to tell her what to do with her own daughter in a matter that is really none of his concern. If he can't stand looking at the bloody paper towels, he should just buy them a bin with a lid, end of the story. We'll agree to disagree. You obviously feel very strongly that men have no business bringing up concerns around matters they don't biologically experience (and in this case, also because he's living with his aunt). Well, to each their own. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 We'll agree to disagree. You obviously feel very strongly that men have no business bringing up concerns around matters they don't biologically experience (and in this case, also because he's living with his aunt). Well, to each their own. Minor correction: I don't feel that women have any business bringing up certain concerns regarding the teenage son of the aunt/uncle they are living with either (hence the stained Kleenex example). But yes, aside from that, happy to agree to disagree. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 No, not really. I have no issue with men leaving the toilet seat up. Urine stains everywhere would be analogous to blood stains everywhere, which isn't the case here. We're not talking about them leaving blood all over the floor and walls , we're literally talking about ONE case of blood at the side of the sink and bloody (paper towels? pads?) inside the garbage bin. Given that it appeared all of a sudden after a year, chances are the daughter just got her period and isn't experienced in how to deal with it. A better analogue than the one you gave, would be a woman living with her aunt/uncle who have a 15 yo son, and saw Kleenex with white stains inside the bathroom garbage bin. And no, I don't think she should say anything about that either... If it was really a paper towel on the side of the sink , how do you know if it is her period or she simply cut herself shaving? Link to post Share on other sites
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