NC? do I break it? do I even have a chance?

[heartbreakkid15]

Hi everyone, very new to this.. I'll try not to bore you guys

My story, well I met this girl about 3 years ago we fell in love fast, and decided to move in together after a few months of dating.. it was AMAZING, best choice I've ever made in my life. I loved her truly and at the time had two jobs and was goal driven and motivated... she had failed her teaching license test and stopped trying way before I met her. So naturally I helped her study till 3am every night and she took another test and passed! It was an awesome day. The summer hits and she gets a offer at a school in a new state.. she told me "I'm not taking it, I don't wanna leave you and want to be with you". I told her there's nothing to worry about I'm moving with you. So we moved that summer to maryland.. man it was amazing! New life, new start, new things... and we finally were actually allowed to have a dog ! (Gave her a puppy for her birthday a year before) it was perfect.. she always begged me that she was ready to marry. She's 27 and I'm now 24. She was exactly what I wanted in a woman.. but sadly I ruined that.. as we moved to maryland things were tough for me, I applied to countless jobs and would not get an answer back, it frustrated me to see her paying for everything... eventually I got so frustrated that I gave up hope, I got really lazy and unmotivated... I started playing the xbox alot.. nd I've never even been a video gamer.. slowly I began to not even ask how her day was.. I pushed her so far away.. but my mind just kept saying "she won't leave you don't worry" she spent a whole year being the best she can be trying to motivate me, help me find a job, help me go to a community college and get a degree so I can find a better job.. I pushed it off everytime like "I will don't worry" but I wasnt.. so finally 4 weeks ago, she asked me for a break.. needed time to "miss me".. I asked her to reconsider and she couldnt. So I drove to new jersey and waited a long stressful week.. Friday she text me and says "feelings have change, I'm sorry we need to work on ourselves" it was a brutal blow.. I said please just give me one last chance.. and she said "I'm sorry, I know you want to work it out, but feelings have changed" so.. naturally I said stopped texting and didn't wanna call, I said I'll do no contact for a few weeks and get over this.. I have fixed my self in a great way.. got a job, cut my hair, changed my appearance, work out everyday, called the college here and sit up classes.. I'm actually very proud of myself.. but deep down, I know I want her in my life.. I was months aways from proposing to her (Christmas, I had already bought a ring).. but she hasn't contacted me at all.. well the day after the break up I asked her to mail my stuff... she texted me over the next weekend saying she mail the stuff but I ignored her.. today she texted me saying "hey" I didn't respond, then she said "hope you got ur boxes" I didn't respond, then she said "phone bills due, I'm going to try and help pay on it but I wish you nd ur sister can put money down". Long story short I got a plan under my girls name and like a dummy aloud my sister to get on too.. my sister lost her job and couldn't help me pay the bill so I missed a few months and been backed up.. I don't want my ex helping pay the bill because now that I have a job I can pay it off myself. So idk what to do? Do I text and tell her I'll pay it off and break NC? I told myself I'd only break NC if she started contact in a positive way like. "Hey, how are you" so I got happy when I saw the "hey" but I now know it was probably only to ask about the phone bill.. what do I do? Do I even have a chance of getting her back?

[TheTraveler]

Hi everyone, very new to this.. I'll try not to bore you guys

My story, well I met this girl about 3 years ago we fell in love fast, and decided to move in together after a few months of dating.. it was AMAZING, best choice I've ever made in my life. I loved her truly and at the time had two jobs and was goal driven and motivated... she had failed her teaching license test and stopped trying way before I met her. So naturally I helped her study till 3am every night and she took another test and passed! It was an awesome day. The summer hits and she gets a offer at a school in a new state.. she told me "I'm not taking it, I don't wanna leave you and want to be with you". I told her there's nothing to worry about I'm moving with you. So we moved that summer to maryland.. man it was amazing! New life, new start, new things... and we finally were actually allowed to have a dog ! (Gave her a puppy for her birthday a year before) it was perfect.. she always begged me that she was ready to marry. She's 27 and I'm now 24. She was exactly what I wanted in a woman.. but sadly I ruined that.. as we moved to maryland things were tough for me, I applied to countless jobs and would not get an answer back, it frustrated me to see her paying for everything... eventually I got so frustrated that I gave up hope, I got really lazy and unmotivated... I started playing the xbox alot.. nd I've never even been a video gamer.. slowly I began to not even ask how her day was.. I pushed her so far away.. but my mind just kept saying "she won't leave you don't worry" she spent a whole year being the best she can be trying to motivate me, help me find a job, help me go to a community college and get a degree so I can find a better job.. I pushed it off everytime like "I will don't worry" but I wasnt.. so finally 4 weeks ago, she asked me for a break.. needed time to "miss me".. I asked her to reconsider and she couldnt. So I drove to new jersey and waited a long stressful week.. Friday she text me and says "feelings have change, I'm sorry we need to work on ourselves" it was a brutal blow.. I said please just give me one last chance.. and she said "I'm sorry, I know you want to work it out, but feelings have changed" so.. naturally I said stopped texting and didn't wanna call, I said I'll do no contact for a few weeks and get over this.. I have fixed my self in a great way.. got a job, cut my hair, changed my appearance, work out everyday, called the college here and sit up classes.. I'm actually very proud of myself.. but deep down, I know I want her in my life.. I was months aways from proposing to her (Christmas, I had already bought a ring).. but she hasn't contacted me at all.. well the day after the break up I asked her to mail my stuff... she texted me over the next weekend saying she mail the stuff but I ignored her.. today she texted me saying "hey" I didn't respond, then she said "hope you got ur boxes" I didn't respond, then she said "phone bills due, I'm going to try and help pay on it but I wish you nd ur sister can put money down". Long story short I got a plan under my girls name and like a dummy aloud my sister to get on too.. my sister lost her job and couldn't help me pay the bill so I missed a few months and been backed up.. I don't want my ex helping pay the bill because now that I have a job I can pay it off myself. So idk what to do? Do I text and tell her I'll pay it off and break NC? I told myself I'd only break NC if she started contact in a positive way like. "Hey, how are you" so I got happy when I saw the "hey" but I now know it was probably only to ask about the phone bill.. what do I do? Do I even have a chance of getting her back?

 

Send her a check for what is owed, tell her to cancel it and get your own phone line.

[SoThatHappened]

^^^ Yep.

 

Make amends by man'ing up and paying what you need to pay.

 

You've learned a few lessons the hard way. It's now up to you to grow or shrink based on your experiences.

 

What you did wasn't horrible, just not desirable. There may still be a chance, but you have to make amends first. Let the rest fall into place.... with or without her.