Author Clark99 Posted December 11, 2015 Author Share Posted December 11, 2015 See OP, only 22 years until you find that great girl. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
varonny Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 Whatever you do, dont lower your standards. I've had people (including my mother) say I should but why? I do not lower the standard in anything else in life, why should my partner be any different? Sure, no one is perfect but I'm not going to pick someone who i'm not physically and emotionally attracted to for the sake of having someone. The amount of people that ask me why I don't have a boyfriend, then get put off when I say that I'm too picky and just haven't met someone I could be interested in, is hilarious. So many people treat having standards as being an awful thing. I completely agree with lovesickgirl. Just because you haven't met 'the one' at 26, doesn't mean you'll never meet them. If you can't accept a certain quality, don't convince yourself it will be ok if you give it a try. 'Maybe I can be with someone who's a smoker/drug user/has a drinking problem (whatever you find to be a dealbreaker), maybe it's something that I can just live with.' If you're saying yes to someone you wouldn't normally just because you're scared of being alone for the rest of your life, you're not doing it for the right reasons. Scared of being alone? It's ok. It's ok to be scared, that's what makes us human. I'm scared that one day I'll wake up and I'll be alone and have become bitter about life, but I'm not letting that rule me now. I love who I am, and the things I do are for me alone. I know exactly who I am, and one day when I do meet 'the one', they're going to be able to see and accept me for me. (And if he doesn't, then he's obviously not the right one...) Don't stress about being single whilst all your friends are getting married, etc! Being single can actually be pretty awesome! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 I perfectly abuse my right to be a young man, I go out with friends, I drink more than I should, I DJ, we go bike riding, I take the mick out of my mates. This is all good on one level, but I would also like someone to relate to on a deeper level. Maybe I'm in the minority here feeling the way I do at my age? But I can't help my feelings. No you are right on schedule. Are you leveraging the things you cite above to meet women? 1. When you DJ you should be flirting 2. When you are parting you should be flirting. Bars get a bad rap sometimes. I met my husband in one. Granted don't take home to barfly bicycle but bars do present you with an available pool of women 3. Join a bicycling club & meet women who share your passion. At the very least flirt with the sales clerk at the bike store. 4. Ask the women in your friends' lives to fix you up 5. You mentioned in another post having a job . . . Do you see the same women when you get lunch? Not necessarily someone you work with but somebody you see often. Chat her up. 6. Also on a work note go to industry events. You will advance your career, widen your network & meet women. I met DH at a business card exchange (in a bar) Link to post Share on other sites
sportygirl89 Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 (edited) My brother told me he was about to give up on dating, before he met his current girlfriend. Yes, I would like to be in a relationship now. But right at this physical moment I know that's a disaster waiting to happen. I just picked up a volunteer agency position and numerous guys are on the agency (so I have numerous hours and training I have to put in). The guy would have to be very very understanding and not jealous type (agency 80% guys). I've volunteered over 1000 hours for this organization and its the best, even got me pointed to my medical program. If something were to happen soon, would I be happy? Yes, but am I expecting things? No. Get yourself busy and quit woah as me crap! You won't find someone being on a computer. Go out and meet people . Be happy single before you get into a relationship! Edited December 12, 2015 by sportygirl89 Link to post Share on other sites
CTRL C Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 I'm also 26 and just left a horrible relationship that started in my teens. It's certainly been "fun" watching my younger cousins and friends get married, buy houses, have kids... And here I am, starting over from scratch - good job but no house, single (never even had a "real adult date" since the last first date was when I was 19), and feeling like a dead end. So trust me I know the feeling of being stuck and frustrated. However We are only 26. I think it's safe to say that how we're feeling now isn't going to last for the next 40, 50, 60 years of our lives. There's plenty of time to get things figured out. I would rather be completely lost through the rest of my 20s, than try and stick to some schedule and end up unhappy. Personally I'm spending time focusing on me, being happy with me. We're not looking for people to "complete" us because we should be whole to begin with. The partner is icing on the cake, they make us *more* but they don't make us who we are. Be you - awesome, talented you - and let someone who deserves you come when they will. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 It is a necessity that all of your relationships are going to fail until you find the one that doesn't. It makes perfect sense. You just have to work on not feeling discouraged going through it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Your dating history sounds fairly normal for your age. I wouldn't sweat it. Link to post Share on other sites
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