Beautiful/physically attractive women love emotional abuse

[y2k]

I am starting to become convinced that physically attractive women crave emotional abuse. The more I tip toe the "emotional abuser" line, the better results I've been getting with drop dead gorgeous women.

 

The reason for this seems to be that an emotional abuser has to give off the impression that he does not care what happens. In woman logic, this is a challenge that will attract them. Of course the trick is to not cross the line (don't overdo it.....if she tells you "I love you", don't just stay silent and walk away...say it back).

 

I personally wish it was not like this, but this is a constant that I find. Thoughts?????

[RecentChange]

My thoughts, based on a few very attractive women I have known since we were all children (knew them growing up).

 

Women or girls who have been taught that their value is closely tied to their physical looks can develop a pretty shoddy sense of self worth. Never praised as the "smartest" or the most clever, or the most creative, or able... But rather time and again "the prettiest". Add to that "pretty" often comes down to how you are physically valued by men....

 

Not being valued for inner beauty or skills or talent, but rather physical beauty, can, in my opinion actually be quite damaging.

 

People with low self-esteem / self worth often attract, and respond to poor treatment - its reaffirming their already damaged perception of self.

 

Growing up, my sister was the "beautiful" one, and always garnered much attention for her stunning looks. But to be valued for your body, rather than your mind - can for some be a heavy toll.

[mrldii]

I am starting to become convinced that physically attractive women crave emotional abuse. The more I tip toe the "emotional abuser" line, the better results I've been getting with drop dead gorgeous women.

 

The reason for this seems to be that an emotional abuser has to give off the impression that he does not care what happens. In woman logic, this is a challenge that will attract them. Of course the trick is to not cross the line (don't overdo it.....if she tells you "I love you", don't just stay silent and walk away...say it back).

 

I personally wish it was not like this, but this is a constant that I find. Thoughts?????

 

 

None of the physically attractive women I've known have craved - even subconsciously - emotional abuse from men; most of the women I know (regardless of their physical attractiveness) don't tolerate emotional abuse from any man, even for a nanosecond.

 

 

Birds-of-a-feather and all that good sh*t, yanno?

 

 

Perhaps you're simply attracted to physically attractive women who are also emotionally damaged, and that's what's led you to make your ergo-ipso-facto conclusion about "all" physically attractive women.

 

[Gloria25]

Maybe cuz of their looks and things coming easily to them, they sometimes crave difficult RLs?

[loveweary11]

I tend to pick only the most ridiculously hot girls.

 

After lots, it's all I'm attracted to.

 

So... i have a lot of data points.

 

I'd say everything Recent Change said is true, while I disagree with OP's theory.

 

Truth be told, half of my secret to getting these girls is to treat them well, build their self confidence and help them become more secure in their abilities. To essentially give them exactly what Recent Change says they are lacking. To counter everything others have said about them in the past. To help them grow as people independent of their looks.

 

To a woman, they all respond extremely well to the positivity and growth I bring, sticking with me and shunning dbags that treat them poorly.

[Rejected Rosebud]

OP why would you even consider emotionally abusing someone? Even if you think they like it?

[Eloise1]

In my experience, women like confident guys, but not emotionally abusive ones... Though yes it's true that overly-enthusiastic guys often come of as needy and not as exciting or interesting, so there is a line there. From what I've seen, the winning combo for a guy looking for a serious relationship is confident, happy, kind, and involved in many things in life.