BackWithHimAgain Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for two years. I was really in love with him in the beginning but he's done alot of things to turn me off and make me mad - I'm having a really hard time being intimate and trusting. Plus he's always smothering me. He tends to be too clingy and touchy-feely. He's either rubbing me or in he's in my face wanting to kiss or he's thrusting his penis up against me. It's annoying because this goes on constantly. I got mad at him today and said "STOP TOUCHING ME!". I didn't mean to blow up but it was driving me nuts and I felt like he was smothering me. I can't stand constant touching and rubbing - all the time. I'm the type of person who needs my space and he just smothers me when we're together. I've lost my desire to make love to him because sex is boring and he's just annoying and grabs my hand and sticks it there or he gives me oral sex (and doesn't do it right so I sit there while he thinks he's doing me this grand favor). How do I tell him he's just not turning me on? I feel like a grown woman dating a horny teenager - he's not romantic or loving - he's just pesky. I love him but I'm just not getting turned on by him - he just repulses me - he's like an out of control dog who's in your face wanting affection and jumping all over you - you just want it to get off of you and go away and be calm so you can pet it with it going bonkers. I've told him to stop being so clingy and needy and poking his hard on in my face that it's NOT a turn on. I want him to be a man and give me something to go with so I can get excited and actually want him again. I just lost that feeling now and just cringe when he starts pawing at me - I want a challenge or for him to turn me on but when I ask him if he'd go slow and get me aroused first he gives me a blank stare. I've even asked him to talk dirty and he just froze. He's not turning me on anymore - what do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
loveisallaround Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Since you've tried communication - I don't see what else would work escept for breaking up. Unless you want to try again, of course. Why stay somewhere where you don't want to be? You have options. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 You know what you need to do... Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted May 31, 2005 Moderators Share Posted May 31, 2005 Definitely the easiest post to give advice on westernxer! Why have you not made the move to leave already? Unless we're missing something, the advice as to what to do here is about as obvious as it can be. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by Curt Definitely the easiest post to give advice on westernxer! Definitely... I love the ones that require little advice. The worst are the chicks dating marrried men... talk about helpless. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 dump his ass and find a real man! Link to post Share on other sites
BackWithHimAgain Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 I hear you guys loud and clear - it's time to move on indeed. I need a helluva lot more from a man and I'm tired of making excuses for his lame ass. Thanks for listening! Link to post Share on other sites
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