Darnx Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 Hello everyone a long time lurker posting with my own little story So Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year.For the most part everything with us has been good especially in the bedroom. The one thing that bothered me was that she has alot male friends. And after her male friends were being talked about more than like to hear I started to get suspicious.So after snooping (yea I know its bad) I find deleted texts of her flirting and seemly sleeping with one of male friends. At that point I didn't even feel as bad as I thought I would. I was hurt but i'd tried to rationalize it as "well most people cheat at some point" also Im not totally innocent since I still sometimes talk to my ex. and she was youngish (23). When I confronted her with it she says she didn't have sex with him and that he just did oral on her. She apologized repeatedly and it seemed sincere. I kinda believe that since she is very crazy about oral and one time humped my nose while I was sleep because she wanted oral. I broke it off with her but I'm having second thoughts. Other than that we seemed good. Should I try to give it second try? Link to post Share on other sites
kgcolonel Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 One quick question here....would you have second thoughts if you knew she was not doing some other guy after the breakup? She cheated on you and more than likely it wasn't limited to oral and even if it was, that is something that in my book would be an immediate deal killer.... Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 Hello everyone a long time lurker posting with my own little story So Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year.For the most part everything with us has been good especially in the bedroom. The one thing that bothered me was that she has alot male friends. And after her male friends were being talked about more than like to hear I started to get suspicious.So after snooping (yea I know its bad) I find deleted texts of her flirting and seemly sleeping with one of male friends. At that point I didn't even feel as bad as I thought I would. I was hurt but i'd tried to rationalize it as "well most people cheat at some point" also Im not totally innocent since I still sometimes talk to my ex. and she was youngish (23). When I confronted her with it she says she didn't have sex with him and that he just did oral on her. She apologized repeatedly and it seemed sincere. I kinda believe that since she is very crazy about oral and one time humped my nose while I was sleep because she wanted oral. I broke it off with her but I'm having second thoughts. Other than that we seemed good. Should I try to give it second try? Sure if you believe all that happened was a little Cunnilingus. Have right at it. Next time you see this guy smell his breath, offer him a shot of Tartar Sauce and thank him for drawing you and your GF closer 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Don't be in a relationship with her, just throw a hump and lick into her once in awhile. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Bro, if you don't get angry that she let another guy go down on her what do you get angry about? Heck no you shouldn't give it a second try! Next time she'll say he only put the tip in. And if you believe that's all they did think again. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Not mad, then ask her to marry you. Good luck with the proposal Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 (edited) hey darnx, did you have a problem with her humping your nose to get off while you are basically unconscious......i understand she might have felt horny....and thought ok ill wake him up and we can make love......but...normally a woman in love i feel most women in love by the way......not just myself.....will wake her partner up more gently maybe with her pleasuring the man into sexiness.....giving him the chance to wake up deliciously rather than a nose feeling like a surfboard being ridden for selfish reasons only..... to me unless you said for her to do it...its a bit well...wrong...... ill explain......if a woman were to wake up with a guy shoving a penis in her mouth do you think there would be something to be said..... there is no difference to what she did to you...its just not right to do.....male to female or female to male...its rank...... that act she did, shows little or hardly any respect for you and your body...if she can do that with you present......albeit unconscious...what do you think she might really do behind your back..just oral hey????..the woman doesnt respect you and i really feel you should be honest with her about that..and find yourself a lady who loves you as well as respects you....your gonna get hurt.....i really hope you end it before then.....deb Edited December 12, 2015 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
cichlid Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 She cheated on you, whether or not it was more than oral with the guy or not is irrelevant to your decision, although I suspect it was more which makes her a cheater AND a liar. You did the right thing by breaking it off with her. Don't second guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 I kinda believe that since she is very crazy about oral and one time humped my nose while I was sleep because she wanted oral. I broke it off with her but I'm having second thoughts. That's quite the class act you had there. Let's call a spade a spade. Someone who lives for her genitals and getting oral sex and has to hump your damned face - or happily take the first offer from someone ELSE who'll let her hump their face - is not a catch. She's actually pretty disgusting and has all the class of a barnyard animal. Why anyone would want someone like this in their lives is simply beyond me. Link to post Share on other sites
lakerman34 Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 (edited) This reminds me of a college story. I was hooking up with this girl (she would come to my room, we'd ONLY make out and sleep) in college, sophomore year. Could never get the deal done because my roommate REFUSED to leave the room. It made her really frustrated. Anyway, one night, I woke up and she was blowing me. She began doing it regularly, I'd fake sleep while this girl blew me. If my roommate woke up, it was on her, not me. Horny, horny thing. But, your story -- 2 questions: 1. Would she dump you if another girl gave you oral one night? 2. Would you feel GUILTY if another girl gave you the best head you've ever gotten while you were dating her? Something tells me "YES" and "NO" are your answers. Move on. If the sex was great (and that seems to be what she is into), have an arrangement where you can sleep with each other after all emotions are removed. Sleep with other girls as well. You don't seem emotionally distraught over this. Out of respect for her (even though she disrespected you), no need for her to know about what you're doing and with whom. You're still young. Commitment is unnecessary. Edited December 12, 2015 by lakerman34 Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 That's quite the class act you had there. Let's call a spade a spade. Someone who lives for her genitals and getting oral sex and has to hump your damned face - or happily take the first offer from someone ELSE who'll let her hump their face - is not a catch. She's actually pretty disgusting and has all the class of a barnyard animal. Why anyone would want someone like this in their lives is simply beyond me. Ahem... how well exactly do you know men?? lol Too many men would literally give their right arm for a woman like that!! but probably not so much with the idea of a committed relationship though. Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Perhaps you'd both be o.k. with an open relationship? Some people are more jealous than others, and maybe you're not a particularly jealous type. I'm not a particularly jealous person either. Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Have some self-respect. Keep this relationship over. Link to post Share on other sites
edelveis Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 I think that if you are 100% sure she is sincerely sorry and has really regreted it(you are the only one who can understand it noone in here can know it) and you think that you can really forgive her by your heart and never bring it up,then you can give her a second chance.but if you have doubts about her and you re not sure if she is genuinely sorry or just pretending then finish it. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 This can't be serious. I think that if you are 100% sure she is sincerely sorry and has really regreted it(you are the only one who can understand it noone in here can know it) and you think that you can really forgive her by your heart and never bring it up,then you can give her a second chance.but if you have doubts about her and you re not sure if she is genuinely sorry or just pretending then finish it. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you can never bring it up again. Such are the consequences of cheating, it WILL get brought up again in the future during fights. Kind of why people shouldn't cheat you know? Link to post Share on other sites
Hector23 Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 Leave her. Firstly she doesn't respect you enough as a man or as a person since she cheated on you. Secondly, it would be very naive to believe that it was only oral. She is just saying this "half truth" to clear her conscience enough to let her sleep peacefully at night when she knows something more went down. Thirdly, if you take her back, what does that show about your self worth? She'll see that she can take advantage of you and will continue to do so. This will make you feel even worse. Saying "Everybody cheats at some point" sets a very low standard for yourself and your relationships. Nobody deserves to get cheated on and everyone is worthy of faithfulness. Horniness /intoxication is not an excuse to cheat. If the cheater is not happy with something, the onus is on them to break up. If you decide to stay, GIVE IT TIME and TAKE A BREAK from her for at least 2 weeks. I can tell you this will make the decision a lot easier. I was cheated on and at first I thought the same as you and was ready to forgive and move on. But I took time to really think about and decided to kick that cheating b!tch out of my life. Good Luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
edelveis Posted December 22, 2015 Share Posted December 22, 2015 spectre i am totally serious.if you bring it up again and again then you can nou forigive.maybe you dont know what forgiveness really means so i dont blame you. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 spectre i am totally serious.if you bring it up again and again then you can nou forigive.maybe you dont know what forgiveness really means so i dont blame you. First things first my "this can't be serious" was aimed at the OP. I can't believe any man would act this way. Second I never said a person could bring it up "again and again" but come on now: people are only human. It WILL get mentioned sooner or later during an argument. I'm not saying bringing it up every week is healthy, but a person doesn't get to cheat and be forgiven and then say "never speak of this again". Forgiveness, true forgiveness, is a process. Link to post Share on other sites
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