Author fred123 Posted July 28, 2016 Author Share Posted July 28, 2016 What happened? Yh my girl used to send me rings etc lol. I cant comprehend her 180 u turn Link to post Share on other sites
sorano Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 Bro I have no idea. Everybody thought we were going to get married. To this day I have no idea why she bounced and why she said she wasn't happy anymore. I have no idea how you can go from one extreme to another. I was doing so good man. I got back into body building, got a new car, getting a new job with more money, new clothes. Then I saw my ex on a dating site. I didnt click her profile. I just did a double take at the main picture and bam, Iv been crying for two days. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 Feelings change. That's just a fact of life. She might have actually meant what she said at the time but later had a change of heart. That can definitely happen. Also, people say things in the heat of the moment that they can't make good on later. They might think it sounds good at the time but feel differently later when emotions die down. You not being Jewish sounds like an excuse because she would have known that before hand. I don't think that's the real reason. I also think you need to be cautious if a person is saying they can see long term after 4.5 weeks. That's a bit too soon in most cases. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 How long are you going to keep lamenting this? You started a thread more than seven months ago about this woman, and even then, it was clear that she had always been lukewarm about you and the relationship. It's time, for your sanity, to stop asking questions about this particular woman and just move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
DramaInPajamas Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 People do it all the time. Nothing is life is 100% certain other than death and taxes. People enjoy your company in the here and now, they like you, they like being with you, they arent pretending about that part. But they know deep down they arent seeing long term in you but continue to enjoy you in the here and now. But problem is it messes you up bad if your feelings were stronger. People do all sorts of things they are not sure about. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 The short version is that she was rebounding with you. Her ex left a void and she tried to slot you in. That doesn't mean she didn't genuinely like you. But the talk of love and sending you pictures of rings? That's projection and shouldn't have been taken very seriously so soon into a relationship. When her ex came back, she bounced and came up with a few excuses as to why she couldn't be with you. My guess is she went back to him and that was the purpose of his "I'm moving on" message to her - why the heck would she care if he moved on and they were truly done? He was trying to bait her. And it worked. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 (edited) deleted post I knew this situation sounded familiar. I in fact participated in that thread back in December, now that I've looked at the previous thread. OP - there were very clear warning signs from the beginning with this girl. We all told you that you were wasting your time because she was never really into it. So the better question - at the risk of sounding quite blunt - is why you even attempted a relationship with a girl who was so "meh" about you? And why it is still bothering you months after the fact? She wasn't worth the hassle, and she isn't worth your emotional energy now either, my friend. Edited July 28, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator redacted quote of deleted post ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 I knew this situation sounded familiar. I in fact participated in that thread back in December, now that I've looked at the previous thread. OP - there were very clear warning signs from the beginning with this girl. We all told you that you were wasting your time because she was never really into it. So the better question - at the risk of sounding quite blunt - is why you even attempted a relationship with a girl who was so "meh" about you? And why it is still bothering you months after the fact? She wasn't worth the hassle, and she isn't worth your emotional energy now either, my friend. That's why it's irritating when people start several threads about the same relationship. It obscures context for many people, including some who read/participated in them. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 Note from moderation: we have cleaned up a couple rude posts and for contextual purposes, have merged this latest update with the many previous threads on the same topic. Carry on, ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
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