marcusdevilliers Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 Im scared. seems as if my life is just circling itself. and i cant do the one thing i need to do, which is find myself. I come from a broken home, and i just cant seem to fix it. My father gives us hell everyday of our lives. he has never been there for any of us. and its not getting better.. idk if its because he has never been around, and i never had a strong role model to look up to, that im such a weak man. I always dissapoint myself, never find mootivation or inspiration to do anything. Life just gets harder and i become less of what i want to be everyday. I cant even be a man when it comes to make life decisions. and i really dont have anyone to talk to. thats why i ask for so much advice here. i got caught up with this girl, and when she left me she broke me. And i cannot find the strength and will power to make a solid decision when it comes to her. i recently made a post, she wanted to meet up. and i have no idea what to do about it. I want to make things work with her, but i really cant say what she wants. Idk if she wants to try again or just catch up and be friends. we already talked so i dont think its to catch up. seems more than that. and this has me overthinking everything. I really wanna make myself a somebody, and be the best man i can be. A strong courageous independant man, who is secure, confident and doesnt let things bother him or get him down. I just want to be that guy, because who i am right now wont survive in the real world, he can, but he'll be dead inside. My problems are alot, and i cant seem to eliminate them. Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 I come from a broken home, and i just cant seem to fix it. Sorry you're going through this OP. Many of us come from broken homes...we just choose to not let it define us. You can do the same. What can you do next week to stabilize your life/add to the stability of your life/future? What have you done about "saving money" from your thread a few weeks ago...have you taken any of that great advice and utilized it? It does you no good to ask for advice and not utilize it. Then your lack of action "defines" you Link to post Share on other sites
playlislay Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 My ex had a similar problem that impacted on him as a person and as a partner. Most of the time he was an amazing partner, but when his dad shone through, he was an abusing *******. We would 100% still be together if he hadn't adopted these negative traits as he was my best friend and loved each other very much. I can completely empathise with your situation. You need to get yourself some kind of help to try and iron out any negative traits. Maybe try some cognitive behaviour therapy? Also, you need to try and find an older male (one that doesn't have any traits of your father) to associate with and observe. You start to come to terms with what's normal and what's not, and learn other ways to respond to situations in a way that your father wouldn't. Link to post Share on other sites
playlislay Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 As for the girl, we can't tell you what she wants. You're going to have to go and find out for yourself and then make a decision from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Samhain Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 I came from a broken home. Two choices, withdraw and feel sorry for yourself, or be determined not to allow a crappy childhood you had no say in to affect the rest of your life as an adult which you do have a say in. Stop looking at all of your problems bunched together, that's what's overwhelming you. Tick them off one by one and do something about them individually, and that feeling will get less and less. Link to post Share on other sites
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