IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 2 weeks ago i went to a wedding and met the most amazing guy. He lives about 2 hours from me but we hit it off.......This is the one I had sex on the beach with! So he came down to the Jersey Shore this weekend. I spent the entire weekend with him and it was magical......Sex Sex Sex Sex and more Sex. We did it in this haunted house....We just stayed behind the group a little and went behind some skeleton playing the banjo! It sucks so much that he lives so far away. I would really like a relationship with him but I know It can't work. Just too far. Do I just keep it casual and take trips to see him? I know he would take a trip here to see me, but all those hotel rooms are going to get expensive! Should I be smart and end it? I really don't want to but what if we make frequent trips to see each other and end up falling? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 2 hours is nothing. Juliet lived that far away too. OK, my failed relationship is not an advert, but several of my friends have made relationships like this work And with Juliet distance was not the obstacle. Why hotel rooms? Are you both still living at home? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 Yes we are still living at home....I'm too much of a party animal to be trusted with a LDR. I go to a club and see a guy and hook up with him b/c 1. I have to get back in the groove of a relationship and that not easy when your loving being single and 2. I'll think in the back of my mind that I have no clue what he's doing which means he'll have no idea what I'm doing. Its tough....If he were here with me i would be with him all the time and actually have a great committed relationship. How did you and your wife make it work? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue How did you and your wife make it work? I'm assuming you mean Juliet? Read my post again, honey Romeo and Juliet is a tragedy, remember, not a romance that worked out. It's easy to make LDRs at this distance work. You could alternate weekends for example. When he comes to you, he could even just come for the day sometimes. Or spend one night at your house or with a sympathetic friend. In between, you keep in contact. But you do your own thing too. None of this works if either of you tend towards unfaithfulness. But then, no romance will ever work in the long term if you're like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo I'm assuming you mean Juliet? Read my post again, honey Romeo and Juliet is a tragedy, remember, not a romance that worked out. Your right....but i don't understand......Your not with your Juliette anymore? Were you with her and something happened? Sorry if I'm being nosey. Just curious. You seem to talk about her alot which makes me think that your with her and have a wonderful relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Some people have 2 hour+ commutes to work. Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH,...........I remember the first time I had sex behind a skeleton playing a banjo...............................................................................magic Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by Craig Some people have 2 hour+ commutes to work. Good Point. Scarly...Your too much Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Wait til you get to that "BJ behind a mummy playing the cowbell" stage of your relationship..............*sniff* Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by scarlyjones Wait til you get to that "BJ behind a mummy playing the cowbell" stage of your relationship..............*sniff* :lmao: :lmao: I actually laughed outloud in my office!!! Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by scarlyjones Wait til you get to that "BJ behind a mummy playing the cowbell" stage of your relationship..............*sniff* The scariest is when a vampire starts playing with your organ... Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue Your not with your Juliette anymore? Were you with her and something happened? Yes, we were together. It's a sad story. She was soooo in love with me and talked marriage, marriage, marriage. Then suddenly she changed her mind You seem to talk about her alot which makes me think that your with her and have a wonderful relationship. I'm having difficulty moving on. It's happening slowly, but I still think of her a lot. Sorry if I'm being nosey. Just curious. No problem. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo The scariest is when a vampire starts playing with your organ... ... and the tune is "the first cut is the deepest" Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 LDR's go against everything a relationship stands for, in my opinion. You meet and see people BECAUSE you want someone in your life. I mean,..really,....what more is a LDR,.. than just a booty call, with feelings? You want your S.O. to be around dont you? How do you get to know the person if you meet them and they ALREADY live far away? It MAY work if you date someone for a while and THEN they move. But if you meet someone and they live far away already,...then you never get to see how they are ALL the time. Right now,....all you really know for sure is that the sex is good behind banjo toting skeletons,........you know nothing of how he is in real life. His views on ANYTHING. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo This is one of the reasons I'm interested in what makes you tick. I have this issue where I find flaws in every one. Their eyes are too far apart and if we were ever to go sunglass shopping.....It won't work Or He has a snaggle tooth....And i turn myself away. I have been trying not to but I am very perceptive and notice EVERYTHING!! Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 well then you may find fault in EVERYONE who ever pet heavily in haunted houses. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by scarlyjones well then you may find fault in EVERYONE who ever pet heavily in haunted houses. Actually the bad light helps Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue I have this issue where I find flaws in every one. Their eyes are too far apart and if we were ever to go sunglass shopping.....It won't work Or He has a snaggle tooth....And i turn myself away. I have been trying not to but I am very perceptive and notice EVERYTHING!! Seriously?!? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 Seriously.......This is a little exaggerated tho....Maybe subconsciously I'm afraid of commitment..... Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 LDRs work if ou meet the following requirements: 1. You begin with an initial period of being together, which is hopefully extensive. 2. Your period of time while separated has a clear end 3. You have plans for how you can get together when the separation is over with. IMO, if you want it to work, you can. The fact that you guys are both in your parents houses is kind of a bummer. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter The fact that you guys are both in your parents houses is kind of a bummer. Actually, her avatar is kind of a bummer, too Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Focus, Romeo,....focus Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter LDRs work if ou meet the following requirements: 1. You begin with an initial period of being together, which is hopefully extensive.2. Your period of time while separated has a clear end 3. You have plans for how you can get together when the separation is over with. IMO, if you want it to work, you can. The fact that you guys are both in your parents houses is kind of a bummer. Very good point Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 My husband lived two hours away from me...but he thought I was worth the effort to see (*ahem* back then any way) So I married a guy that lived two hours from me On the other hand, look how it's working out for me Link to post Share on other sites
scarlyjones Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 If you were given the opportunity to date one of two equally outstanding, handsome guys.........only ONE of them lived close by and the other lived two or three hours away,......which would you ALWAYS choose? The close one,..right? Well then,,.....why would you ever CHOOSE someone to be exclusive with that lived far enough away to call it a LDR? Doesnt make sense. Why would you make sure the ONE person your supposed to be close to , lived far away? How could that possibly NOT mean you werent in for nights of missing them,...crying,...wondering if they have been faithful,.....the "Why didnt you call"'s or the inevitable fight you WILL most definitely have the first time they cant make the regular trip down to see you. Link to post Share on other sites
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