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THings are going well with my new boyfriend. I just have some sexual questions. Is it common for an older man to ejaculate very quickly after

being inside only a short time? He is not selfish in making sure he gets me off in other ways, but I'd like him to last a little bit longer. Are there ways to accomplish this? He is very open to suggestions and help and wouldn't get offended if I gave him advice. Is there something he can do to not ejaculate so quickly? Could it be that since this is the beginning stage he is still not used to me?

I would appreciate all the help.

Thanks

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i always figured that older men take longer to get off, due to maturity and experience. i am personnally the opposite, and sometimes it seems that i take too long. but i think it was a misperception on my part since i liked sex a WHOLE lot more than my ex, who would have loved it to be over in 5 minutes!!!

 

i think there are plenty of websites on the net that might offer succinct advice on how to prolong your man. maybe he builds up so much pleasuring you first that he doesnt have far to go when its turn. just be patient, and you will get other advise. just enjoy yourself.

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How long does he usually last after insertion?

 

I can help because I had the same problem a few months ago, but I resolved it. I believe I had the problem, because I am/was in love with the girl who I had the problem with. If you are completely comfortable with the person you are having sex with, a lot of weight is lifted off of your shoulders and the man doesnt have his insecurities that he might have with another woman he isnt as comfortable with.

 

First, tell him to do his kegels everyday. Just type "kegels" at google and you can find out what they are and how to perform them. I have been doing them for about 7 months now with my own PE program and I am as happy as ever. I can hammer nails into oak wood with my erections now.

 

After he gets the hang of kegels, make him read this...because this is where it will help him the most. When you perform a kegel, you flex your PC muscle. PC muscle for women, BC muscle for men, so he flexes his BC muscle when he does a kegel. This moves everything to touch to the prostate, which is pretty much the female "g-spot" in men. This is what makes him want to orgasm/ejaculate quicker. What does he need to do? He needs to move everything away from his prostate by performing a reverse kegel. This lifts everything away from the prostate so he will not feel the need to ejaculate as quick...the same as the g-spot; if nothing is touching the g-spot, there will be no pleasure, but something is touching it, there will be.

 

To do a reverse kegel, insead of trying to stop the flow of urine (normal kegel), push out, like you are trying to force the urine out. This relaxes the BC muscle in men, which moves away from the prostate, which helps him last longer. This is my usual routine during sex: Insertion; before I get the feeling of ejaculation, I perform a reverse kegel and hold it for 20 seconds to 5 minutes...depending on how turned-on I am. I let go and keep having sex for like 5 minutes then do the reverse kegel again. When she is done, I can ejaculate on command most of the time because my body is ready to ejaculate but I hold it off, so when I am ready to ejaculate I hold a regular kegel which moves everything towards my prostate, which in turn makes me ejaculate within a minute. Tell him to practice kegels and reverse kegels everyday, like before he goes to sleep, or if he is just relaxing. I would suggest 10, 10 second holds with a 2 second release for normal kegels everyday, and for reverse kegels, just practice holding the reverse kegels for as long as possible. I hope you can follow this "guide". If not, just ask if you do not understand something. Good luck with this.

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i always figured that older men take longer to get off, due to maturity and experience. i am personnally the opposite, and sometimes it seems that i take too long. but i think it was a misperception on my part since i liked sex a WHOLE lot more than my ex, who would have loved it to be over in 5 minutes!!!

 

i think there are plenty of websites on the net that might offer succinct advice on how to prolong your man. maybe he builds up so much pleasuring you first that he doesnt have far to go when its turn. just be patient, and you will get other advise. just enjoy yourself.

 

I feel you i've been there!!I read on a couple of things..Try not to start 4 play off with something that gets him too excited like oral sex for example.Try touching him but also letting him touch you & maybe peform oral sex on you if thats something he seems to like. Also,when he thinks he's getting close to it sometimes its hard for him to turn that feeling off so try switching positions,slowing down,or grab the lower part of his shaft and squeezing it not hard but enough maybe to make his erection to go down a little..I really hope some of these ideas help.. Also remember if he's capeable of it maybe you can try again after the first time it usually lasts longer..

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It's all in the mind.

 

Orgasms, Sex, Love.

 

I know I orgasm quickly if I want to do my duty as quick as possible cause I feel repulsed by a current girl. If I go off quickly, I stick around , but if she's ... ugh I just wanna jet.

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THings are going well with my new boyfriend. I just have some sexual questions. Is it common for an older man to ejaculate very quickly after

being inside only a short time? He is not selfish in making sure he gets me off in other ways, but I'd like him to last a little bit longer. Are there ways to accomplish this? He is very open to suggestions and help and wouldn't get offended if I gave him advice. Is there something he can do to not ejaculate so quickly? Could it be that since this is the beginning stage he is still not used to me?

I would appreciate all the help.

Thanks

 

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