cocoluv Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Hello, I am a 23 year old female and i find myself angry at my boyfriend all the time, we live together I am angry at him because hes fat and his belly hangs out all the time because i am attractive and slim and embarrsed to be seen with him because my family all hate him because he has depression and says hes not motivated because of that because hes lazy because he likes junk food and if i dont cook he will eat **** because he doesnt go to sleep till 3 am and watches movies in the bedroom so i cant sleep because he has slept with far too many women in his life because i had to show him how to be a gentleman and in the process ive heard way too much sexual comments about other women and seen far too much porn on his computer because now i have trust problems from the above comment and insecurities because if i have a child with him my parents say they wont want anything to do with the baby because he doesnt do anything apart from go on his computer and say he will work out tommorow because he doesnt work he mooches of a carer payment for him mum who he hates because he is only starting to study next year after the two years weve been together he has kept on deffering uni courses because he is 35 years old i know this was more of a statement but yes he has good traits too i am just highlighting the bad. He keeps saying hes not that bad and i keep saying what other woman would put up with this? am i right or not? Link to post Share on other sites
Redfisher Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 I'm speechless.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wewon Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Hello, I am a 23 year old female and i find myself angry at my boyfriend all the time, we live together I am angry at him because hes fat and his belly hangs out all the time because i am attractive and slim and embarrsed to be seen with him because my family all hate him because he has depression and says hes not motivated because of that because hes lazy because he likes junk food and if i dont cook he will eat **** because he doesnt go to sleep till 3 am and watches movies in the bedroom so i cant sleep because he has slept with far too many women in his life because i had to show him how to be a gentleman and in the process ive heard way too much sexual comments about other women and seen far too much porn on his computer because now i have trust problems from the above comment and insecurities because if i have a child with him my parents say they wont want anything to do with the baby because he doesnt do anything apart from go on his computer and say he will work out tommorow because he doesnt work he mooches of a carer payment for him mum who he hates because he is only starting to study next year after the two years weve been together he has kept on deffering uni courses because he is 35 years old i know this was more of a statement but yes he has good traits too i am just highlighting the bad. He keeps saying hes not that bad and i keep saying what other woman would put up with this? am i right or not? You sound mean and if you were a man you would be called abusive. You're not going to change all of these things in a 25 year old man, let along a 35 year old. End this before you do more things that you will regret. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cocoluv Posted December 14, 2015 Author Share Posted December 14, 2015 I am not mean , I am being honest. I have said all these things to him but he says is it really that bad here with me we have good times and i never cheat on you or would do anything to hurt you. I am just asking here for some advice because i ask my family and they hate him so they just agree with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Wewon Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 I am not mean , I am being honest. I have said all these things to him but he says is it really that bad here with me we have good times and i never cheat on you or would do anything to hurt you. I am just asking here for some advice because i ask my family and they hate him so they just agree with me. There are too many things about him that you will not fix. Not to mention that you don't sound like you have much of a support system for your relationship only more people to validate the negativity. Write this off as a lesson learned, you're still young, next time go out with someone that has more compatible values as yourself. Also, take some time to consider why you invested so much time in someone like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 You sound mean and if you were a man you would be called abusive. You're not going to change all of these things in a 25 year old man, let along a 35 year old. End this before you do more things that you will regret. Agreed ^^ Do you want a man/bf or someone you can insult, pick apart and/or fix? Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Does he know how much you despise him? Maybe he does know. Some people know and are just gluttons for punishment - they stay anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 I am not mean , I am being honest. I have said all these things to him but he says is it really that bad here with me we have good times and i never cheat on you or would do anything to hurt you. I am just asking here for some advice because i ask my family and they hate him so they just agree with me. Look he's not going to leave you or change. Why can't you leave him? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 If you think this low of him why are you with him? Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 The relationship has clearly run its course! Time to break up with him, pack your stuff up, and move on to someone else...someone you won't feel embarrassed to be seen with. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mrldii Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 ...I am just asking here for some advice because i ask my family and they hate him so they just agree with me. Once a person gets to the point where the fact that their S/O can fog a mirror and that person's constant and habitual breathing in-and-out is beyond irritating to them, the "What should I dooooooo?!?" ship has sailed and it's time to leave the relationship. Boomerang back to your parents' home...it's probably your best option. Best of luck to you, OP... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 I am not mean , I am being honest. I have said all these things to him but he says is it really that bad here with me we have good times and i never cheat on you or would do anything to hurt you. I am just asking here for some advice because i ask my family and they hate him so they just agree with me. Your list of why you don't like him is pretty specific and probably longer than reasons why you like him. Look, he's your boyfriend NOT husband. If you are unhappy with him then end it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 You are dating a lazy no good @ss parasite. How can you even introduce such a bum as your boyfriend? aren't you embarrassed? Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Hello, I am a 23 year old female and i find myself angry at my boyfriend all the time, we live together I am angry at him because hes fat and his belly hangs out all the time because i am attractive and slim and embarrsed to be seen with him because my family all hate him because he has depression and says hes not motivated because of that because hes lazy because he likes junk food and if i dont cook he will eat **** because he doesnt go to sleep till 3 am and watches movies in the bedroom so i cant sleep because he has slept with far too many women in his life because i had to show him how to be a gentleman and in the process ive heard way too much sexual comments about other women and seen far too much porn on his computer because now i have trust problems from the above comment and insecurities because if i have a child with him my parents say they wont want anything to do with the baby because he doesnt do anything apart from go on his computer and say he will work out tommorow because he doesnt work he mooches of a carer payment for him mum who he hates because he is only starting to study next year after the two years weve been together he has kept on deffering uni courses because he is 35 years old i know this was more of a statement but yes he has good traits too i am just highlighting the bad. He keeps saying hes not that bad and i keep saying what other woman would put up with this? am i right or not? You are the one sleeping with him so what does that say about you???? It doesn't sound like any of this really bothers him that much so that means you are the one that has the issue with it but yet you are choosing to stay with him so what does that say about you? You tell him no other woman would have him, so what does that say about you? People are kind of like water and seek their own level, so what does that say about you? If you are ragging on him as much as we assume that you do, how is that working for you? What is it in you that is making you stay with someone you have such little admiration and respect or even tolerance for? Here is the real issue here - when you point a finger at someone, you have 3 other fingers pointing back at yourself. you say no other woman would have him but the real issue is you obviously don't believe you could get someone better or you would have by now. Your real anger and criticism here is actually with yourself. There is such a thing as "leagues" and we always tend to play in our own league. You have to be in the league you want to play in. Millions of women have tried and all have failed, you simply can't fix up a man like you can a house. You can't get him on the cheap and flip him and turn him from a frog into a prince. If you think you are in a better league than him, you simply have to leave him and find someone better. You can't upgrade a 35 year old. He is what he is. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Whoa, you are EXTREMELY judgmental. Why exactly are you with him when you are extremely judgmental about his choices, his past, his life? Walk away from the guy since you think it's okay to talk so meanly about a guy you're WILLINGLY seeing. Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 I have noticed that sometimes when a family disapproves of a partner, you will hold on to that partner for dear life because of personal pride and dignity. No one wants to feel like a dog being told drop it and go fetch a different guy!! But it is all in your head, so feel free to dump this guy! Link to post Share on other sites
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