SixxChick Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 (edited) I hired him professionally over two years ago and one thing lead to another. I went to law school with his ex. He lost his home and I took him in after he begged and pleaded with me, claiming that he had nowhere else to go. I cooked for him. I kept the fridge stocked with his favorite beverages. I tried to help him get his business back on track. He promised to pay me $200 a week, and then revised it to $500 a month. I got it in piecemeal, and he now owes me over $5,000. I am in the collection field, so I've strong-armed him into paying me $200/month. But he is totally hostile about it, like he is being put out. With all that is said and done, what is it about love that makes us SO stupid? I miss this freakin' jerk? Honestly, in all my time on the planet, he takes the #1 jackass position. It's confusing. We are upon the holiday season, and I am still kind of thinking about a liar, a cheat and a thief? I'm just perplexed that some people can walk around without a freakin' conscience. Edited December 14, 2015 by SixxChick Link to post Share on other sites
Edi Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 wow what a f*****g douche.. sorry that you been through this. Its unfortunate but sometimes we come across huge asses in our lifetime. first of all. there should not be no love here because reading what you said, this man is just making your life miserable and only taking. My best advice is you deserve a million times better and you know that. so try and get your money back, thats important. then, kick his worthless ass to the curb. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Edi Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 Love is the craziest thing in the world. And completely blinds us. You'll be okay. know you deserve better and try to get this poisonous man out your life. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 You're absolutely right that some people have no conscience. If it's not about/for "Me,me,me,me" it's irrelevant. Don't waste any more time thinking about him. He's not worth the mental and emotional storage. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
artnoveau Posted December 15, 2015 Share Posted December 15, 2015 I think it works because it starts with small things. If those *******s came out treating us like the did in the end right away, we'd never let them do that to us. But I guess it started with him wanting a small amount of money and you wanted to help and loved him and it got worse from there. And yes: there are *******s. The way he acts - how he is pissed off, that you want your money back - clearly indicates that he has acted like this before. Maybe not to a girlfriend, but I bet he has used people before and thinks its fairly normal. I bet he has lost some friendships over this and didn't care much. He will most likely have troubles to find a good relationships or even friendships in the future, so its his loss. He does not value people enough and it has nothing to do with you. But most people would have gone along with this. I totally understand. I bet there were good times, but there will be good times with someone else and it won't be ruined by them being an ******* in the end. Just hang in there! And we'll survive the christmas holidays. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SixxChick Posted December 16, 2015 Author Share Posted December 16, 2015 (edited) The way he acts - how he is pissed off, that you want your money back - clearly indicates that he has acted like this before. Maybe not to a girlfriend, but I bet he has used people before and thinks its fairly normal. I bet he has lost some friendships over this and didn't care much. He will most likely have troubles to find a good relationships or even friendships in the future, so its his loss. He does not value people enough and it has nothing to do with you. Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond. It really helps. artnoveau, you nailed it. That is why he ended up living with me. He told me he has no friends. RED FLAG, among a gazillion, that I ignored. But like you said, I know why. When the hospitality was no longer forthcoming from me and I kicked him out, he left without a word. Not a thank you, apology, "I know I owe you money," "it's been real," etc. Not even a "have a nice life." But the truth is, he does not value people like you so comprehensively picked up on. And it will happen to the next "supply source" that he has to rely on. Because I don't see a light at the tunnel in any capacity with this guy. I tried my best. After two years, he's still pretty much broke, losing his business, can't control his two younger kids, and is depressed and anxiety ridden. The bright side is, he is afraid of me because I am in the collections field and could do this in my sleep. (Wouldn't you think you wouldn't screw someone over who is in that profession?) So somehow he has managed to scrounge up the money for me every month. YAAY me! Hope everybody is hanging in there. Be well! Edited December 16, 2015 by SixxChick Link to post Share on other sites
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