2 months after break up, at a lost right now

[foreverig]

Hello so my gf of 2.5 years broke up with me 2 months ago we were in LDR she's in england I'm in thailand , we knew each other from a game we talked for a while then she decided to visit me and after that things happened really fast she decided to move here for over a year. We do have problems in our relationship i admit it, my parents aren't very supportive, my uni takes lots of my time also i have to study a lot so even we live together we didn't have time for each other that much. we also argued quite often but we always sorted it out and i thought our relationship was fine the whole time. She got into uni in England so before her term started she visited me this september for 2 weeks we did have a good time and promised each other that we will get through this and after we both finish uni we can actually live together but in the meanwhile we will also visit each other whenever we have term break. One week after she went back she broke up with me yes i did make a mistake according to her i annoyed her with my text i texted her too often but it was because i was worried about her i know now that i shouldn't do that but it shouldn't lead to the break up. Her reason for breaking up with me was her feelings fade that she doesn't feel the same with me anymore thats it, i was shocked i was lost and confused i couldn't eat couldn't sleep i ended up in the hospital for a week. yes i made another mistake i begged and plead her to come back but obviously it didn't work so after trying that for almost a month i stopped completely and went on no contact. I was 15 days through my non contact , she uploaded her pic with a guy i don't know and her caption was " So so happy <3 " and now i just saw her profile picture on whatsapp its that man holding our dog ( we got a dog together ) in her couch. it completely broke my heart and tore me apart right now my hands are just shaking i can't feel a thing its all numb. I was fine all week when i first saw her picture with that man i decided to move on cause i felt like theres no hope for me anymore and i was better i got better little by little everyday moving on but now I'm just back to square one.

Right now I'm just thinking should i just message her asking who he is or leave it or what should i do. I'm dying to know but scared of the answer at the same time .

Thank you so much for reading this i just need to get it out of my chest and please leave your opinion in the comment, much appreciate

[Greekboy]

Hello so my gf of 2.5 years broke up with me 2 months ago we were in LDR she's in england I'm in thailand , we knew each other from a game we talked for a while then she decided to visit me and after that things happened really fast she decided to move here for over a year. We do have problems in our relationship i admit it, my parents aren't very supportive, my uni takes lots of my time also i have to study a lot so even we live together we didn't have time for each other that much. we also argued quite often but we always sorted it out and i thought our relationship was fine the whole time. She got into uni in England so before her term started she visited me this september for 2 weeks we did have a good time and promised each other that we will get through this and after we both finish uni we can actually live together but in the meanwhile we will also visit each other whenever we have term break. One week after she went back she broke up with me yes i did make a mistake according to her i annoyed her with my text i texted her too often but it was because i was worried about her i know now that i shouldn't do that but it shouldn't lead to the break up. Her reason for breaking up with me was her feelings fade that she doesn't feel the same with me anymore thats it, i was shocked i was lost and confused i couldn't eat couldn't sleep i ended up in the hospital for a week. yes i made another mistake i begged and plead her to come back but obviously it didn't work so after trying that for almost a month i stopped completely and went on no contact. I was 15 days through my non contact , she uploaded her pic with a guy i don't know and her caption was " So so happy <3 " and now i just saw her profile picture on whatsapp its that man holding our dog ( we got a dog together ) in her couch. it completely broke my heart and tore me apart right now my hands are just shaking i can't feel a thing its all numb. I was fine all week when i first saw her picture with that man i decided to move on cause i felt like theres no hope for me anymore and i was better i got better little by little everyday moving on but now I'm just back to square one.

Right now I'm just thinking should i just message her asking who he is or leave it or what should i do. I'm dying to know but scared of the answer at the same time .

Thank you so much for reading this i just need to get it out of my chest and please leave your opinion in the comment, much appreciate

 

Hey man, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I remember you from previous posts.

Just let it go, you are not a couple anymore and its none of your business. If she is with someone new already it most likely means that it was over a long time ago and its just easier for her to move on.

 

On the other hand if she is playing online games with you, you should be happy that she's not your problem. And this comes from a man that made some huge mistakes and I wish I had the chance to go back and just get up and leave.

 

Take care:)

[OmahaDivorce]

I'm really sorry about your breakup.

 

Unfortunately @greekboy is right. If she is with someone new already, it was most likely over a long time ago.

 

When my ex filed for divorce a few years ago, I read a ton of books about divorce and breakups. A few of the things that stood out to me were:

1. Statistically speaking, when a women decides to break up a relationship, in her mind, the relationship has been over for an average of 6-9 months.

2. Statistically speaking, women are more likely to go from one relationship to another.

 

I know this hurts, but your woman has most likely been talking with this other guy for some time already and her officially breaking up with you was really just the last step for her starting fresh with this other guy.

 

I know you're hurting right now and that is ok. Whatever you do, just remember that, even though this wound is fresh for you, in her mind, she broke up with you a long time ago and she is just now getting around to telling you.