Curiouswander Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 I broke up with my ex a couple months ago. we had been dating for a little over two years and i can honestly say they were amazing. Up until the last 3 months i felt like she could be the one. I told her i wanted to break up and be friends she really didnt take that well but i was unsure of what i wanted. We broke up around september and that whole month we were still basically together we had sex we texted and she even cried for me while i comforted her. Not a week after she begged for me back a new guy shows up in the picture and she switches up. It felt as if she was a different person over night. She then told me that it was a mistake to be having sex and that she did not love me. She told me she wanted me out of her life with the most indifferent sounding tone. I couldnt even respond i walked away and talked to her a couple days later and she admitted she did care for me and she was unsure how she felt about me but that it was too late to say sorry. i had my chance. She spent a month in the hospital because this new guy had been in an accident i stayed away but kind of crumbled after a month and a half i messeged her letting her know i understood why she left and that i was sorry for the pain i had caused her but that i was not bitter and that eventually i wanted to be able to speak at least. She responded by saying that our relationship was a great friendship and that she now found her true happiness. I feel like it is a rebound but all over social media she almost boasts that she found the one, her soulmate, her other half and shes known him for 3 months. She posts so much about how happy she is with him and posts things about him when she never did that with me she wasnt all big and exaggerated so i doubt its a rebound at the same time. There relationship has progressed to saying i love you to eachother. shes even met his parents and family. Ive read all about rebounds and have heard of cases where the individual is just trying to continue the intimacy of the past relationship. And that they progress fairly quickly. She doesnt have many friends and not much family here so i feel like she doesnt know how to be alone but this guy is head over heels over her as well. I dont get it is she over me in 3 months or is she just confused. I want a second chance to prove to her that i can be the boyfriend she wants not nessesarly change but not take her for granted. Is she in the honeymoon stage with this new guy or is it the real deal. How would i find out and lastly what should i do in the mean time. Im not sure if im ready to just give it up ill stay in nc but when do you know you need to move on? Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 After 2 years you must have given a lot of thought into ending it with her ..... I suggest you focus on those reasons and maintain NC. Start dating when she is out of your system or you'll only end up hurting another girl. It's hard to trust someone fully once they dump you... you think it'll happen again if you go back. Don't worry about her new guy.. perhaps he is the one for her. ..only time will tell. Link to post Share on other sites
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