Love.

[blue_jay_bird]

I'm not in love. Its been 7 months. I feel like a fake.

 

Maybe, if we do things together ill develop theses feelings.

 

I told him I want to more things together, that I feel like this is all about the sex. He tell's me its not, that he cares for me. He becomes distant.

 

I feel confused. I sometimes think if I keep going along with it. IT will just happen.

 

He's a great guy and I don't want to break up with him.

I don't feel like I can fall in love with him for a few reasons.

 

One; He's all I have right now. I don't have a job or hobbies, friends. It all just disappeared. I feel like I just want to fall in love because of the loneliness/ insecurity .

 

Two; I don't know. I just don't feel it. I keep comparing my feelings to the big crazy feelings I had for my ex. I felt - I want to spend the rest of my life with you; your amazing...ext ext. Looking back these feeling seemed to blind me to the truth.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I'm not sure what your question was but you made two very compelling points. You already know what's wrong and why you're not falling in love with him. Love can't be forced. Now you just have to take a leap of faith.

[Blanco]

I don't know if there's a timetable for love, but if you aren't feeling it by now, chances are good that it's not going to happen. No shame in that. Being in a relationship and spending time together isn't always a sure-fire prelude to falling in love.

[Greene0Kelly]

Like what Michelle had said, love can't be forced. And I don't think sex is the key for you to develop your feelings for him. If you don't feel it, then stop it. Don't make him a necessity because you are lonely and want to have someone with you. That isn't love. Back off now.

 

 

Be with someone whom you love.