A-5 Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Who has them, who got them, more importantly who got over them. I just sort of got them, I love my g/f and she is my first, but am I doing the right thing? I could never break up with her becuase I love her and she feels like the one, but am I missing out on the whole dating life? I've never been a dating stud so its not like I got anyone else on my mind. She has been terrible hurt in the past by other guys, and she also feels as if I am the one. So I just could not break up with her....... I don't know why I am thinking about half the stuff I am thinking now. HELP! Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 I THINK i have a fear of it. I always find a flaw in someone that turns me off......His eyes are to far apart so if were ever to go sunglass shopping......I always find SOMETHING! ANYTHING! Maybe my standards are too high....Or its the FEAR! As for your relationship...Do what makes you happy not what makes others happy. If your in a relationship that you don't want to be in, Don't stay in it to spare someone else's feelings....That could do more damage Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE...(raising my hand) Commitment...AHHH the word of the day, I'm tired of that word, but hey it's part of life I'm trying to get over it but sometimes I'm like "what the hell are you trying to get over, just commit already gggg's"!!! I'm my hardest critic and my worst enemy sometimes...I myself...lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author A-5 Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 I love her so I am pretty sure I am in it for my feelings, not just hers(ok so hers too,lol). I dont think I found a flaw in her, its a flaw in me. That flaw is fear that I'm missing out on something cause she is my first(and only). I never felt this way about anyone and I love her, I just need to get over these feelings. Commit, I already did, but why do I have these feelings now?! Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 Because you're scared like I am...Scared of "does this mean that's it, this is the 'one'"??!! Then it freaks you out because you think your young and you still have a lot to experience.. But if you love her and she loves you...Theirs nothing more beautiful than growing with the one you love....Just try and keep the sparks up...Still flirt with her, surprise her, make love to her, do all the things that made you fall in love throughout the relationship.. That's what I'm working on...Learning how to do those things again and to keep the flame alive...so to speak Link to post Share on other sites
Author A-5 Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 Wow, good advise. And this basically sums up how I feel; "Because you're scared like I am...Scared of "does this mean that's it, this is the 'one'"??!! Then it freaks you out because you think your young and you still have a lot to experience.." and this sums up how I SHOULD feel; "Theirs nothing more beautiful than growing with the one you love...." and you are right.... Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted May 31, 2005 Share Posted May 31, 2005 No problem...Don't give up, like I did ....If love is all you need the rest will just come! Link to post Share on other sites
Author A-5 Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 OK, thanks. Thats sad you gave it up, I'm sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author A-5 Posted May 31, 2005 Author Share Posted May 31, 2005 Sorry I made a new thread, I did not see the huge one below mine. I'm flipping out right now, I'm just going crazy thinking about commitment fears, I know she has them too, so that does not help.... Link to post Share on other sites
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