Omei Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 (edited) It's not her it's your BF that's the problem. If it were me.... them moving in together would be a hug deal breaker....I would have walked. There is more going on under your nose than you think. IMO you are just prolonging the inevitable. Dont understand why you have chosen to stick around when he doesnt consider your feelings, and to live together ? That's a deal breaker. Agree with this poster it's just too much in a relationship im not going to try to even view it platonicly if she sits around improperly dressed and he defends her when it makes you uncomfortable he doesn't care sorry :-/ Edited December 23, 2015 by Omei 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 I don't really see where people can see this as anything but incredible insecurity and jealousy issues from the OP. I'll preface the rest of this reply with saying that if the BF and this girl had ever dated/slept together, or if your BF said he used to have a crush on her, or she liked him, or if she makes attempts to hook up with him, flirt with him etc.. Than of course she has a right to be angry and that changes everything. I don't think it matters if they have slept together or not. This is still a female he is living with. It's disrespectful if you have a significant other. You especially do not belong hanging out alone with members of the opposite sex if you are with someone. However, if her BF and this girl are legitimately just friends who have known one another for years or grew up together then there is a ton of what Op said which leads me to believe most of it is formulated in her own head in order to make the friend look like the worst person possible whose trying to steal her BF. If the behavior the OP described about the roommate is accurate then it's really not all in the OP's head. Does the girl have a boyfriend of her own? Does she actively date? Or is she always single and hanging around your BF? When you hang out with your BF, does she allow you two privacy or is she the constant 3rd wheel? Sorry but "talking loudly over the TV" isn't a valid gripe to have and as much as you want to pick apart her every move, the house is hers, not yours, and she can talk as loud as she likes, whenever she likes. The problem is more dressing skimpy around the bf, etc. You might choose to act like this is innocent behavior, but I guarantee you this girl knows EXACTLY what she is doing. You've also made this into something that could destroy your relationship The boyfriend did that the second he moved in with some chick. Link to post Share on other sites
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