I feel uncomfortable about his bachelor party. am i just being stupid?

[reservoirdog1]

Here's my perspective, from my own experience:

 

I got married in 1996. My fiancee made my best friend (who was organizing the bachelor party) promise that there would be no strippers involved. Under protest, he finally agreed, and there were none.

 

My fiancee's stagette, however, involved male strippers. Not only that, but she screwed around during the engagement, and then started again within weeks of the wedding.

 

She's now my ex-wife.

[BBaughman]

As a woman stated earlier, some woman are ok with strippers and/or strip clibs, and some are not, I like her am one of those that is not, and for the same reson I see it as a form of cheating. Heres my delema and I am an emotional wreck trying to figure out what to do. My husband threw his brother a bachelor party before he got married, well actually they were already married (justice of the piece)and had already had a bachelor party (no strip joint) but before the actual wedding his brother wanted another bachelor party, well this time they did the whole strip club thing, I was devistated, although my husband and I were not married at the time I was preggo with our first kid and already a hormonal wreck who had no self-esteem and that didnt make it any better. Time went on, I let it go, and here we are, my husband and I married (justice of the piece too) going on six months now and our "wedding" isnt until June 2006, but now my husbands brother wants to throw him a bachelor party in a few weeks. My husband didnt have one before, no time, and secretly I was greatful. I know he wants to go to a strip joint because he thinks thats what hes supposed to do, but my god, we are married now, this isnt an honest bachelor party and he could do so many other things than go out and get turned on by a bunch of half naked woman and touch and feel and smell and get drunk and OMG it is driving me crazy, and when I tell him about it he doesnt seem to care, like he thinks its ok to do what he wants even though he is actually married to me. He actually told me that after he gets horny at the club he will come home and take it out on me, I can not believe it, like I want him to touch me after he has gotten hot from another woman! There are so many other things he could do on a not so bachelor party out with the guys that doensnt involve degrading me or practically cheating on me but he doesnt care, hes rather get his rocks off becasue he thinks thats how its supposed to be. Am I wrong here? What should I do, Im tired of talking to my journal, it never helps, I need someones advice.